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To NOT turn up for last day of work?

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BLUESEAPARADISE · 07/02/2018 13:03

Posting for a family member ,as we need opinions...

Family member has been working at a nursery for a year now ( to do an apprenticeship) and has been informed they will not be keeping her on once she passes her qualification .. ( turns out they always get people doing apprenticeships and then not keep them as it's cheaper!)

Since starting there the boss / manager and dept manager have been awful towards her ( resulting in family member being in tears multiple times) making her do ALL the cleaning ,shouting at her, calling her names and talking about her behind her back.. the only time she gets " treated like a human" is when they have show arounds or parents come into the nursery .. to put you in the picture she is in charge of cleaning the baby room, nursery, pre school rooms and also the two sleep rooms!)

She has tried talking to the members of staff about the matter but they shut her down saying " it's what you do in a nursery!"

Her last day of work will be on her birthday .. she is dreading it ..

Should she turn up for her last day ?

she is at the point now she doesn't even care if people see this post and figure out its about them.. we just need opinions and advice.

She already has all she needs from the nursery and is on the road to becoming an OFSTED registered Nanny and has two families interested in her ...

Sorry this post is all over the place just trying to put all the information in before I forget!
Thankyou

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Calvinlookingforhobbs · 07/02/2018 13:05

She wil need a reference so in my opinion, yes. Yes she should turn up for it. Sorry!

BLUESEAPARADISE · 07/02/2018 13:06

Sorry I forgot to add She already has her reference .. they gave it to her early

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peachypetite · 07/02/2018 13:06

Yes she should, for a reference in the future.

ZiggyBarDust · 07/02/2018 13:06

Yes, why wouldn't she - it's a contracted work day just like any other work day is.

CodPuncher · 07/02/2018 13:06

Tell her to fuck them off & enjoy her birthday. Life is too short to be unhappy

Owlettele · 07/02/2018 13:06

Nope. Maybe.call in sick to cover back for any paperwork etc. Will she need a reference? College should provide one? X

Liskee · 07/02/2018 13:06

The only thing that I’d question is does she need a reference from the nursery? If not, then lie in on her birthday it is. If she dies though I’d say postpone the birthday celebrations for one day. No point in letting a year of drudgery and hard work go to waste.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 07/02/2018 13:07

Yes she should. Grit her teeth and go in. It's just one day to get through. She can hold her head up high, and get her reference.

Mrsdraper1 · 07/02/2018 13:07

If I was her I would go in, it's the last day. I wouldn't care what anyone said or did on my last day as knowing you never have to go there again is very empowering

FluffyWuffy100 · 07/02/2018 13:07

Last day of work, they have treated her awfully? Maybe she has a headache and can't come in...

ChodeofChodeHall · 07/02/2018 13:07

I wouldn't. It won't affect anything. The reference will need to be factual: dates, etc. No future employer will care that she missed one day.

madein1995 · 07/02/2018 13:07

Can she book it off or get someone to swap with her? I agree, she will be needing a reference so might not be best not to go in

demirose87 · 07/02/2018 13:07

Tempted to say don't go in, but what happens if she ever needs a reference from them in the future? It's only one more day. But I do sympathise because I was picked on by another member of staff when I was 18 and starting out in childcare. Nurseries can be horrible bitch places to work and is one of the reasons I left.

ZiggyBarDust · 07/02/2018 13:07

And it's a nursery, which could seriously leave them in the shit in terms of child staff ratios which in turn would have a knock on effect with both children and parents.

I can't see her being a very good childminder / nanny with this attitude TBH.

AmysTiara · 07/02/2018 13:07

What an awful place to work. No I don't think she should go in. Leave them to it.

billybagpuss · 07/02/2018 13:07

There seem to be so many places like this these days.

I can't imagine not going in for the last day is going to change any reference that they will give her.

Just look to the future and working out what she will do with her newly gained qualification.

madein1995 · 07/02/2018 13:09

on the other hand if she comes down with d and v on the day then she can't possibly come in, can she?

Darcychu · 07/02/2018 13:10

i didnt go in on my last day of work, Have even called in sick to just not go in figured fk it.

BLUESEAPARADISE · 07/02/2018 13:10

I mentioned the ratios to her and she said she isn't counted in them as she spends a lot of time away from the children cleaning the rooms when they go out etc.. and she already has her reference.. I see what everyone is saying though I would hate to think the nursery manager had won 😳

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Calvinlookingforhobbs · 07/02/2018 13:11

I think she has come this far and managed to be porfiessional dispute the difficulties and she should leave her door step clean as it were. Going in is the mature and responsible thing to do. She will likely get gifts from parents.

ManyFloralBlouses · 07/02/2018 13:12

I’d ring in sick if she’s not counted in ratios

madein1995 · 07/02/2018 13:12

Wrt to ratios - a good nursery ought to be over ratios to allow for staff member falling sick etc, if they're not that's not her fault. Also I doubt there would be no staff free to help out - all staff will be dbs checked and most able to help out - so it might end up being manager/cook/PA/deputy manager who has to step in. A nursery shouldn't be so disorganized that a person phoning sick means things grinding to a halt

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Bringonspring · 07/02/2018 13:12

The work place in any profession is an incredibly small place so I would if I was she.

I’ve had people work for me and done an outstanding job but then wrecked by oonion because of how they have worked during their notice period when they have resigned.

SleepingStandingUp · 07/02/2018 13:13

I'd go in, say bye to the kids, and then tell the manager politely what i thought of them

demirose87 · 07/02/2018 13:15

If she doesn't go in at least get her to ring in sick as if she doesn't show up they could ring the college and she could end up in trouble.

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