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AIBU?

To dress my son in girls clothes

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SleepingStandingUp · 06/02/2018 14:42

By which I mean things like leggings and tops that have shimmer and shine, mlp, the girls off paw patrol etc rather than dresses.

Ds is 2, loves pink and glittery and ask the above characters but people act like its child abuse.

Presumably no one would care if s 3yo DD wanted to wear Thomas the Tank Engine

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SwanVests · 06/02/2018 14:43

Just let him wear what he wants, he’s 2. If anyone comments just give a head tilt and say ‘he’s 2, he likes pink.’

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ThisLittleKitty · 06/02/2018 14:44

Yep I've had this if I dare to put peppa pig clothes on my son (he loves her) I get "oh how could you" "he's not a girl!" Yet my friends always putting Thomas the tank engine on her little girl yet no one comments.

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Jengnr · 06/02/2018 14:45

My Mum gets all funny if I give my son a pink cup. I just look at her and say ‘it won’t drop off, you know’

She shuts up soon enough.

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SweetMoon · 06/02/2018 14:46

At 2, really? At 2 none of mine gave a hoot what they were wearing. Perhaps he likes the characters and colours but doesnt mean you have to buy the clothes. he'd probably prefer the toys. But if he does really want to wear them then why not, go for it.

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LoopyLou1981 · 06/02/2018 14:47

I’d say, if it makes him happy, let him and stuff what anyone else thinks.
Unfortunately, you might have to field a few shitty comments but your lb will hopefully be too young to understand the comments and it’ll just be you dealing with them xx

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PinkHeart5914 · 06/02/2018 14:47

Both my ds have a couple of pink tshirts, but then so does dh so I’m not really seeing the issue.

I don’t really think people take that much notice of what a child wears tbh and as long as they are in clean clothes who cares what anyone might think

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PurlPurl · 06/02/2018 14:47

You absolutely should! I do this for my sons. What's the issue? Just another way that boys are limited. They function under so many restrictions, way more than girls imo

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Didiplanthis · 06/02/2018 14:50

My boys still like peppa and love shimmer and shine. They are 6. They probably wouldnt wear the clothes out now but happily wear peppa and mlp pjs, onsies etc. They have a big sister !! At 3 we were regularly out and about as various Disney princesses.

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MuminMama · 06/02/2018 14:51

Not unreasonable. Unreasonable to think a boy wearing something shimmery is anything to worry about, imo. If it were a pink glittery dress with wings, that would also be fine, if that's what he wants to wear.

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windchimesabotage · 06/02/2018 14:51

YANBU I often do. I just let him chose what he wants. He hasnt ever chosen a skirt or dress tho so ive not come up against that. He does like a bit of glitter however!

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JoeStrummersBullshitDetector · 06/02/2018 14:53

Ansolutely not.

With all the trans pressure its not worth the risk. I wish it was harmless but its not.

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SleepingStandingUp · 06/02/2018 14:54

SweetMoon he picked it up and showed it me. I did my usual that's lovely sweetie, put it back. He sat on the floor and cried. That isn't typical for him and he's none verbal so can't articulate. I looked and found his size, and told him if he wanted them he had to carry them. He cried them round the store. That's as close as I can get to "oh mummy these are cute, can I have them" but yeah normally no interest in what I put him in

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joystir59 · 06/02/2018 14:54

See, this is exactly where the seeds are sown of people thinking they need to change sex in order to be comfortable with themselves. Let children express however they like. Pink is just a colour. My son grew up in India where he could wear nail polish and buy his friends flowers without anyone hating an eyelid

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HuskyMcClusky · 06/02/2018 14:54

They function under so many restrictions, way more than girls imo

Like what?

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SleepingStandingUp · 06/02/2018 14:55

*JoeStrummersBullshitDetector surwly him growing up think its ok for boys to wear pink and have dolls is less harmful than him thinking if he wants to there must be something wrong our different with him?

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FlouncyDoves · 06/02/2018 14:56

It’s not pc to say it, but I wouldn’t.

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OutyMcOutface · 06/02/2018 14:56

At two I think it's fine but as they get older, say around four, theyvreally should be wearing proper clothes most of the time.

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YerAuntFanny · 06/02/2018 14:58

YANBU if that's what he wants to wear.

We tend to steer clear of character clothing just out of personal preference but they do occasionally get, DS (11 now) used to love Peppa Pig stuff and at that point you couldn't get George things. We got a few comments from people mostly adults and now my DD gets comments for choosing Spiderman or George pig stuff. Can't win!

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MiddleClassProblem · 06/02/2018 15:00

DD expressed what she liked to wear from her early twos. Just because it didn’t happen to you doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

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YerAuntFanny · 06/02/2018 15:01

🙄 leggings and tops aren't proper clothes now?! 🤔

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SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 06/02/2018 15:01

Of course its fine. Who on earth says 'it's abuse'? That's very extreme.

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MsWanaBanana · 06/02/2018 15:02

OutyMcOutface - At two I think it's fine but as they get older, say around four, theyvreally should be wearing proper clothes most of the time
What exactly do you mean by proper clothes? Didn’t realise t-shirts weren’t proper. What a stupid comment to make

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DoJo · 06/02/2018 15:03

At 2, really? At 2 none of mine gave a hoot what they were wearing.

I would have said this after my first (who is nearly 6 and still doesn't care what he wears), but my youngest is 2 and will only wear leggings. He introduced himself to someone the other day by saying 'You're wearing jeans. I don't wear jeans - I only wear leggings'. He will shriek if I try and put joggers on him or even leggings the next size up which aren't tight enough.

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HuskyMcClusky · 06/02/2018 15:04

Nobody (normal) cares what a 2-year-old wears.

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Orangecake123 · 06/02/2018 15:04

Your child. Do what you think is best for him and don't care about anyone else.

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