To silently judge my friend?

[namechangew4nker]

I have a friend with a baby who is almost 6 months, we live close to each other and see each other on average a couple of times a week. My friend is an excellent cook and her food is amazing, I have tasted it many times, she has even taught me how to a cook a variety of foods from her heritage! However, she constantly feeds her baby crap. I have seen dc eat a magnum ice cream, a cornetto, a character jelly lollipop covered in sugar, a milky bar for breakfast and 2 packets of cheesy biscuits one after the other. She constantly posts photos of her baby eating these things on social media. A few days ago she told me that her baby doesn't like food without salt and won't eat it unless she adds salt to it first. She is aware of feeding advice and is an intelligent lady so it isn't due to a lack of awareness or education. I am no earth mother myself, I have fed my dc crap in the past but not at such a young age and I do feel awful for judging her but I am worried about her child's health and the eating habits her baby is likely to develop in childhood if she carries on!

[Allthewaves]

I'd judge

[Peachplum60]

Gosh o thought that age was all steamed broccoli and carrots

[Weezol]

[Peachplum60]

Not even 6m that is quite unusual to want to feed you baby crap

[GreatDuckCookery6211]

6 months old? And all that crap?

[InToMyHeart]

The only reason a six month old will only eat salty food is because they've been given salty food. That poor child is doomed unless she sorts herself out ASAP. YANBU.

[DonnyAndVladSittingInATree]

any idea why she is doing it? I could understand (a bit) if someone had no idea how to cook or any idea about nutrition but she clearly has that skill and knowledge! Is this her first child?

[Amanduh]

Wow, the baby eats a lot for a 6mo.

[Pompom42]

That is awful especially the fact you say Baby is almost 6 Months. I thought 6 Months was the earliest they were meant to eat food and you start them off with butternut squash or sweet potatoes that kind of thing.

[Grumpyoldblonde]

Really?

[Myddognearlyatethedeliveryman]

Maybe offer her a weaning book your have just 'Found in a charity shop'?

[namechangew4nker]

I think she is keen for her baby to seem 'advanced' and to be hitting milestones early, was weaned onto food at just 12 weeks.

[Calvinlookingforhobbs]

Speak to her HV on the sly. that poor baby has no voice, no power and no one to help him/her.

[Whatshallidonowpeople]

Judge away...but what on earth does taught you recipes from her heritage mean?

[namechangew4nker]

I wish I was lying and making it up, sadly I'm not. Her baby is a high needs baby and cries a lot so I think she uses food to try and stop the crying. Her baby is a big baby.

[Walkerbean16]

She didnt say the baby ate it all at the same time!

[namechangew4nker]

Whatshall, she is dual heritage. Both of the countries her parents are from are known for their food and cooking so she taught me how to cook the food authentically.

[LittleBirdBlues]

Never mind the crap food and little nutrients. I would be worried about choking hazards! Can the baby even sit up on their own?

Yabu for quietly judging though. Speak up. This is neglect.

[Whatshallidonowpeople]

Surely ALL countries are known for food?

[Ceebs85]

That's neglect. Judge away. I would say something as she needs to understand.

[MissionItsPossible]

[Keepingupwiththejonesys]

Baby is likely high needs because they've been eating food, crap food, from a ridiculously young age. Poor baby likely has a sore tummy. Mine have all eaten 'proper' food from six months as we did blw but it was fruit and veg, toast, jacket potato etc to start with.

I do believe it though as I've seen it myself, a woman with a baby the same age as my youngest (they're almost 1 now) was proudly saying how baby, when 7 months, had eaten a whole chocolate mousse. Mine have the odd bit of crap but to push junk on them at such a young age is absolutely daft

[DreamyMcDreamy]

I do believe it though as I've seen it myself, a woman with a baby the same age as my youngest (they're almost 1 now) was proudly saying how baby, when 7 months, had eaten a whole chocolate mousse

Would never have given mine a chocolate mousse at that age, but can believe that more than the OP.
I mean,come on - have seen dc eat a magnum ice cream, a cornetto, a character jelly lollipop covered in sugar, a milky bar for breakfast and 2 packets of cheesy biscuits one after the other....

2 packets of cheesy biscuits one after the other? At that age? Where the hell are they putting it all?! They'd throw up!

"Constantly putting stuff on social media of them eating crap."
See, that I couldn't really get worked up and judge about as you never see the full picture.
Post a picture of them eating an ice cream - it could have been a single lick, not an actual ice cream.
Again,not something I'd have given them,but surely you can't judge from a FB picture as you don't know the background and context!