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To silently judge my friend?

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namechangew4nker Sun 04-Feb-18 19:23:41

I have a friend with a baby who is almost 6 months, we live close to each other and see each other on average a couple of times a week. My friend is an excellent cook and her food is amazing, I have tasted it many times, she has even taught me how to a cook a variety of foods from her heritage! However, she constantly feeds her baby crap. I have seen dc eat a magnum ice cream, a cornetto, a character jelly lollipop covered in sugar, a milky bar for breakfast and 2 packets of cheesy biscuits one after the other. She constantly posts photos of her baby eating these things on social media. A few days ago she told me that her baby doesn't like food without salt and won't eat it unless she adds salt to it first. She is aware of feeding advice and is an intelligent lady so it isn't due to a lack of awareness or education. I am no earth mother myself, I have fed my dc crap in the past but not at such a young age and I do feel awful for judging her but I am worried about her child's health and the eating habits her baby is likely to develop in childhood if she carries on!

Allthewaves Sun 04-Feb-18 19:24:42

I'd judge

Peachplum60 Sun 04-Feb-18 19:25:30

Gosh o thought that age was all steamed broccoli and carrots

Weezol Sun 04-Feb-18 19:26:06


Peachplum60 Sun 04-Feb-18 19:26:21

Not even 6m that is quite unusual to want to feed you baby crap

GreatDuckCookery Sun 04-Feb-18 19:26:24

6 months old? And all that crap?

InToMyHeart Sun 04-Feb-18 19:27:32

The only reason a six month old will only eat salty food is because they've been given salty food. That poor child is doomed unless she sorts herself out ASAP. YANBU.

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree Sun 04-Feb-18 19:28:15

shock any idea why she is doing it? I could understand (a bit) if someone had no idea how to cook or any idea about nutrition but she clearly has that skill and knowledge! Is this her first child?

Amanduh Sun 04-Feb-18 19:28:48

Wow, the baby eats a lot for a 6mo.

Pompom42 Sun 04-Feb-18 19:28:53

That is awful especially the fact you say Baby is almost 6 Months. I thought 6 Months was the earliest they were meant to eat food and you start them off with butternut squash or sweet potatoes that kind of thing.

Grumpyoldblonde Sun 04-Feb-18 19:28:58


Myddognearlyatethedeliveryman Sun 04-Feb-18 19:29:56

Maybe offer her a weaning book your have just 'Found in a charity shop'?

namechangew4nker Sun 04-Feb-18 19:30:43

I think she is keen for her baby to seem 'advanced' and to be hitting milestones early, was weaned onto food at just 12 weeks.

notanurse2017 Sun 04-Feb-18 19:31:00

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Calvinlookingforhobbs Sun 04-Feb-18 19:31:42

Speak to her HV on the sly. that poor baby has no voice, no power and no one to help him/her.

Whatshallidonowpeople Sun 04-Feb-18 19:32:07

Judge away...but what on earth does taught you recipes from her heritage mean?

namechangew4nker Sun 04-Feb-18 19:33:18

I wish I was lying and making it up, sadly I'm not. Her baby is a high needs baby and cries a lot so I think she uses food to try and stop the crying. Her baby is a big baby.

Walkerbean16 Sun 04-Feb-18 19:33:52

She didnt say the baby ate it all at the same time!

namechangew4nker Sun 04-Feb-18 19:35:39

Whatshall, she is dual heritage. Both of the countries her parents are from are known for their food and cooking so she taught me how to cook the food authentically.

LittleBirdBlues Sun 04-Feb-18 19:36:32

Never mind the crap food and little nutrients. I would be worried about choking hazards! Can the baby even sit up on their own?

Yabu for quietly judging though. Speak up. This is neglect.

Whatshallidonowpeople Sun 04-Feb-18 19:37:43

Surely ALL countries are known for food?

Ceebs85 Sun 04-Feb-18 19:39:47

That's neglect. Judge away. I would say something as she needs to understand.

MissionItsPossible Sun 04-Feb-18 19:39:52


Keepingupwiththejonesys Sun 04-Feb-18 19:41:44

Baby is likely high needs because they've been eating food, crap food, from a ridiculously young age. Poor baby likely has a sore tummy. Mine have all eaten 'proper' food from six months as we did blw but it was fruit and veg, toast, jacket potato etc to start with.

I do believe it though as I've seen it myself, a woman with a baby the same age as my youngest (they're almost 1 now) was proudly saying how baby, when 7 months, had eaten a whole chocolate mousse. Mine have the odd bit of crap but to push junk on them at such a young age is absolutely daft

DreamyMcDreamy Sun 04-Feb-18 19:46:42

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