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DH whistling to baby DD like she's a dog.

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BeagleBurger Sun 04-Feb-18 12:28:06

Dh has just whistled to baby DD (18 months) like she's a dog and ACTUALLY said the word "heel" to her. I said "she's not a dog please don't I hate it when you do it." And he made it out like I was being was only a joke you awkward cow (implied not said).

He does it a lot and I find it utterly awful. When he gives her bits of food he never gives it to her or places on her plate, he sort of tosses it to her. He does adore her and she loves him too but I just find it so horrible. AIBU?

He also calls her a lump all the time. Anyway. 😠😠😠😠😠

pinkyredrose Sun 04-Feb-18 12:29:44

He's just having a laugh by the sounds of it, doesn't sound like anything malicious.

RadioGaGoo Sun 04-Feb-18 12:30:00

Do the same to him. Its a joke, he will see the funny side.

Partypopper123 Sun 04-Feb-18 12:30:52

YANBU, none of it is complimentary, what a shame for your dd.

MumGoneMild Sun 04-Feb-18 12:31:31

Put his dinner on the kitchen floor and whistle for him

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies Sun 04-Feb-18 12:32:22

Sounds v. normal, and very affectionate from DH. And I much prefer this to the 'daddy's little princess' approach.

MerryMarigold Sun 04-Feb-18 12:32:38

Your dd will love this at 2 and a half. My dd was desperate to be a dog/ cat and crawl round the house. Don't worry, he'll grow out of it or she will make him. I can't imagine my 9yo putting up with it.

PotteringAlong Sun 04-Feb-18 12:33:32

You are being ridiculous. My DH has always whistled to our kids. He does it now when he comes in from work and then run to find him. It’s lovely, you’re being daft.

TroysMammy Sun 04-Feb-18 12:33:56

My DF used to whistle for us to come in when we were kids. His whistle could be heard in the next street and we used to come running home straight away.

HanaK88 Sun 04-Feb-18 12:33:57

I quite often find myself making that kissy cat noise to the baby (and calling her by the cat's name) blush

Trailedanderror Sun 04-Feb-18 12:34:23

The throwing food at her is really horrible.

BeagleBurger Sun 04-Feb-18 12:35:14

Doesn't it send the message that she's on a level with an animal though? I would HATE it if he or anyone else did it to me. He's got no boundaries.

Maybe I'm being precious and need to lighten up. It makes my skin crawl when he does it though.

Steeley113 Sun 04-Feb-18 12:41:00

You’re being precious. Kids think this sort of thing is funny. My nickname was pugsley when I was little grin It’s not scarred me for life.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 Sun 04-Feb-18 12:43:24

Do the same to him and definitely put his dinner on the floor

RadioGaGoo Sun 04-Feb-18 12:43:34

I don't think you are being precious. Not liking something doesn't mean you are bring precious.

eurochick Sun 04-Feb-18 12:50:29

I find it best to treat toddlers like puppies. Your husband seems to have toddler parenting sorted.

Schlimbesserung Sun 04-Feb-18 12:57:33

I don't think you are being precious at all. If nothing else, showing her that throwing food is a good thing (because Daddy does it) will backfire.
Even without that though, you can dislike something and ask him to stop it because it makes you uncomfortable and he should be able to respect that.

FizzyGreenWater Sun 04-Feb-18 13:00:14

No boundaries you say?

Give him a nickname you know will hit a slight nerve. Nothing too awful, just something that vaguely touches on a sensitivity.

Then look amazed when he objects and imply he's an awkward humourless cow for not loving it. Extra points if you get the word 'bantz' in.


TheQueenOfWands Sun 04-Feb-18 13:00:41

I agree with putting his dinner in a dog bowl.

You could get one of those nice Mason Cash ones with 'DOG' written on the side of it.

FizzyGreenWater Sun 04-Feb-18 13:02:16

Oh, and funny stuff is only funny if everyone finds it funny. Them's the rules.

Humour is SUBJECTIVE, so if there's a member of the family who is having to put up with their 'skin crawling' when everyone else is laughing - nope, it ain't funny. Find something else to laugh about. Doesn't matter if you consider them 'precious' or 'humourless'. Be genuinely funny and kind enough to make everyone laugh. That's the aim.

TheBrilliantMistake Sun 04-Feb-18 13:05:11

It's just a typical man's sort of joke. Not your cup of tea, evidently, but I don't think for one moment it's indicative of his attitude towards her.

Babies are fun in so many ways, and they do the daftest things. I can remember rolling balls for my kids to 'fetch' - it's play (and helped them with crawling!). I may even have uttered the words 'fetch' at some point (it's a long time ago, I can't remember).

PinkBlueYellow Sun 04-Feb-18 13:06:31

If he does it a lot, it would piss me off too.

Especially as you've asked him not to, that you don't like it and still he continues. It's like he's sticking two fingers up at you.

Chottie Sun 04-Feb-18 13:06:51

OP - I think this is horrid too.

Your DD is little child, your DH's child and not his dog. I just can't understand why he does it. I would be pulling him up on it every single time.

TheFirstMrsDV Sun 04-Feb-18 13:18:42

Doesn't it send the message that she's on a level with an animal though?

Do you think you love and care for your DD more than her Dad does?

Feelings Sun 04-Feb-18 13:21:21

It's not lovely and OP is not being precious. My next door neighbour whistles to his partner like a dog, even she doesn't respond to it because it's degrading.

It's asserting some kind of control, and belittling.

I can't believe he said "heel" to her hmm

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