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Mother in law going in my bedroom

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madwifenewlife Sat 03-Feb-18 21:09:36

Ok not sure if I'm being unreasonable to be bothered by this, or if it is a bit odd. We moved house a couple of months ago so been trying to get it sorted out. It's taking time as needs some work and was left in a state.

But every time my in laws come round mil will nip to the loo, and then just let her self into my bedroom for a look! My husband found her in there the second to last time, and today I had stuff in the landing as was moving my daughters room round and blocked my room on purpose. She just started climbing over bits making her way to my bedroom! I said oh don't go in there it's a right mess! But she still went in. I just find it a bit odd now to just keep going in there, we have been here a bit so it's not changed or been decorated yet! I feel like getting a massive dildo and putting it on the bed or something next time they pop round just to put her off doing it again lol. Anyway would this bother anyone else or am I being silly?

Also my bedroom is no where near the bathroom she doesn't need to walk past it as my stairs split off at the top, and my landing is quite long each way, so bathroom is a different end to my bedroom.

PositivelyPERF Sat 03-Feb-18 21:11:01

Nosey fucker. Simple solution is to put a lock on the door.

windchimesabotage Sat 03-Feb-18 21:12:38

id hate that so much!! get a lock. Or if you have the nerve go down the giant dildo route or maybe the more subtle handcuffs on the bedpost??

splendidglenda Sat 03-Feb-18 21:15:08

What a nerve. Can imagine my MIL doing the same. She's so pushy

Mymouthgetsmeintrouble Sat 03-Feb-18 21:17:02

Do the same to her have a real good mooch then quiz her on what the best brand of knickers are and what size bra she wears that should stop the nosy cow

Troels Sat 03-Feb-18 21:17:59

Just have Dh tell her. "Stop going into our room to have a nosy" and say it in front of FIL see what happens.

madwifenewlife Sat 03-Feb-18 21:18:13

Good, I thought it was a bit bloody odd but you never know lol! It's not our first home so I have no idea if she's done this before or if it's just because she likes this one so much! But all my other houses you passed my bedroom to go to the toilet so I wouldn't of noticed if she went in it! She is super nosey.

WhooooAmI24601 Sat 03-Feb-18 21:18:25

Be brutal and say to her "you either need to respect my privacy and stay out of my room or I'm going to never let you into my home again" and stick to it. She'll back down when she realises you're serious.

MIL here is a bit nosy but that's next-level rudeness.

Monoblock67 Sat 03-Feb-18 21:18:42

I know people are saying get a lock but honestly there’s no way you should have to lock your MIL out your bedroom! Can you and your DH have a word with her? What on earth is she looking for?

DriggleDraggle Sat 03-Feb-18 21:19:06

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retirednow Sat 03-Feb-18 21:19:17

Lock on the door and lock it when you know she is coming over , that is really rude. Ask her what is she expecting to find in there.

OliviaStabler Sat 03-Feb-18 21:19:24

Just get a lock for the door. What a nosy cow

ChasedByBees Sat 03-Feb-18 21:20:39

Could you not just ask her why she’s going into your bedroom when you’ve asked her not to?

MyBrilliantDisguise Sat 03-Feb-18 21:21:38

I would get a lock - it's the best way of showing her that she has no right to be in there.

BlessYourCottonSocks Sat 03-Feb-18 21:21:59

Your choice of words was wrong! You needed to say, 'What on EARTH are you doing?' as she began climbing over, followed by 'Our bedroom is our private space!' in a firm tone.

You need to have a word with her now and say, 'I was really upset at the way you invaded my privacy last time you were here. Please don't go in our bedroom again - it is off limits'.

chaucerstails Sat 03-Feb-18 21:23:06

Lock on the door or blown up picture of you and your DH DTD hung over the bed.

virtualreality Sat 03-Feb-18 21:23:49

I'd guess this wasn't the only room she had a nose in! But surely it is the room of you and DH? Does he have a problem with his mum nosing around your room?

You mention YOUR room all the time. Why is it just YOUR room?

Anyway, get a lock, it is really that simple. Isn't it?

RedPanda2 Sat 03-Feb-18 21:23:53

I think some heavy duty sex toys are in order here

kaytee87 Sat 03-Feb-18 21:23:58

Have you asked her why she's doing it?

Finola1step Sat 03-Feb-18 21:24:49

Nosy fecker. The only people allowed in our bedroom are me, dh and our dc. I think I would have to call her on it and ask her what is she looking for.

My ds is only 9 so I am years away from.being a MiL. But I just couldn't see myself wandering into the room he shares with his partner. But then I'm a big believer in personal boundaries. The first time I ever went into my MIL's bedroom was after she died and I was helping to sort her belongings.

madwifenewlife Sat 03-Feb-18 21:24:56

I never know she's coming she just turns up! But our room is a bit of a dumping ground at the moment with the house needing a lot doing to it, I wanted the kids rooms sorted and down stairs, so ours has taken a back seat. She always seems to show up when I'm in a mess! As we only have the weekends to get bits done and that's when she shows up! She's quite thick skinned and bossy so she will do what she wants even if I said. Well I did try today but she ignored me lol! My husband doesn't see the issue hmm

frasier Sat 03-Feb-18 21:25:25

Another vote for a lock here. Useful to have a room in the house with a door you can lock anyway.

(Or put anti-vandal paint on the handle!)

retirednow Sat 03-Feb-18 21:28:13

When you open the door to let her in tell her not to go looking in the bedrooms and if it continues you will have to lock the doors,

zzzzz Sat 03-Feb-18 21:29:03

I think go down the forms for emigrating to Australia route. (Someone suggested this inna similar situation on here years ago).

Leave them spread all over the bed, and have Sidney opera house on your phone wallpaper.

MyBrilliantDisguise Sat 03-Feb-18 21:29:05

You need to tackle her over turning up whenever she feels like it. If you're working in the week it's not on that she just comes over when you're busy. You have a husband-problem here.

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