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MIL comes to visit us every couple of months normally with her partner. She won't stay at our house and prefers the nice hotel nearby.
MIL very sensitive to everything and DP is her only child.
Since I have known my partner she has always booked the dates at the hotel and then told us when she is coming to visit. This has caused a few issues with us as sometimes the dates have clashed with other arrangements.
I have very gently told MIL a couple of times now that it would be ideal if she could run past the dates with us before she books them so we can check our calendar.
She didn't like this suggestion and chose to ignore it.
Fast forward to Christmas and she decided to book a date to come in January. It clashed with a concert we were going to so she re booked and was due to come today.
However, around 3/4 weeks ago she sent us both an email saying she had booked numerous dates to come in 2018. Once again without checking with us. One of the dates was Good friday (we had plans to go away for easter) another was my birthday (she didn't know it was my birthday, she had forgotten)and another date we are at a wedding.
I asked DP to politely email her back to say the dates weren't suitable and please could she discuss dates with us in advance in future as per my previous conversations with her.
She hasn't spoken to me since.
She then decided to cancel all the hotel dates but we assumed February was still going ahead as we said we were definitely free.
I asked DP to check today what time she was arriving and she replied saying 'I cancelled them all didn't I'
I feel like throwing my head against a brick wall. We speicifally told her Feb was fine, but the other dates clashed for us.
This is not the first time she has done this and often takes huge offence/makes a big point at pretty minor things that could easily be resolved.
I have to be very careful what I say as she is highly, highly sensitive but as I say she obviously blames me for stopping her seeing her son (!)
AIBU to think she is being the childish one here? Or could I do something differently?
She and my DP have an extremely close relationship.
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notwonderwoman · 02/02/2018 10:48
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