DH has hours of calls logged to a number I don't recognise

[livingontheedgeee]

So, we use a phone provider where you pay for a monthly contract then need to add credit for things like calling overseas, dialling non-standard numbers etc. Normally DH and I keep £10 extra credit on just in case.
Last night, DH ran me as he's working away and asked me to top it up for him (he's completely technophobic).Normally I'd just log into the app on my phone but I was sitting at the computer at the time so I logged onto his online phone account to do it from there.

Right there, on the front page, it gave the top 5 numbers he calls with the number of hours associated with each number. One number he'd spoken to for 364 hours over the course of a month! Checking further (of course) he'd also sent 13 MMS to the same number meaning he's sending picture messages too.

Now he does use his phone a lot if he has to speak to clients and there are some clients he calls regularly but looking at the other calls, none of them are more than 10 hours across the whole month.

So, I went to his phone contacts list and lo and behold, here's the number assigned to some woman who I've never heard of.

I want to confront him but neither do I want to look stupid. He's never given me any reason to think he's messing about. Except perhaps he doesn't call me every day like he used to. Sometimes he goes two or three days without a call. This is the only change in his behaviour but thought it was on the back of me saying he needn't feel obliged to call every night.

Question is, do I call this number? Or do I ask him outright? Do I let it ride and see if he continues to call her?

[Quartz2208]

364 hours over a month are you sure that is right that is averaging 11 hours a day and you dont mean minutes

I guess he works away a lot as well

[Allthewaves]

I'd be tempted to ring it.

[DrRanjsRightEyebrow]

Don't ask him about it... yet. Nor call it. I would be wanting to find out more solid evidence before he has a chance to delete things and be evasive. It's suspicious enough to merit checking his phone. Is that something you are able to do?

[Rewn7]

That’s nearly 12 hours per day! Are you sure it’s correct?

[crackerjacket]

Get someone me to call the number from a unknown phone

[Guardsman18]

Why don't you call the number and see whether it's a company that answers?

I'd have to know myself

[livingontheedgeee]

Minutes! Sorry!

[VerrucaUpdate]

Are you sure that isn’t over a quarter?

[AdalindSchade]

Those numbers don't add up! Are you sure it's not minutes? That's 6 hours.

[VerrucaUpdate]

That’s still 6 hours though. Quite a long time

[NaiceToMeetYou]

Sorry op

I'd start by googling the number and searching it on Facebook.

[sparklydust]

No advice OP but I didn't want to read and run

[VerrucaUpdate]

Do you have whatsapp?

Put the number in your contacts and then look at the profile pic on what’s app

[AdalindSchade]

Oh ok! 6 hours to a client doesn't sound unreasonable?

[Poisongirl81]

Google the number

[Poisongirl81]

Or ring it from a burner phone

[VerrucaUpdate]

You can also save the number and search for an Instagram account under the find friends but

[MultiGrey]

Is it a mobile number? If you put the number into the search field on Facebook it will bring up any account that is linked to it.

[CherieBabySpliffUp]

I think you've got your figures wrong

[NorthernLurker]

My husband works away a lot too. He would have reason to speak to female colleagues for that length of time. Can't think of any reason why he would send picture messages. I think you need to ask him who she is if you want to know. Once you know you can't not know iyswim. Personally I would want to know but some people maintain marriages on a don't ask don't tell basis. It's a possibility.

[Valerrie]

Google the number. Sometimes it comes up with photos if it's linked to Facebook.

[notapizzaeater]

I'd google the number too, can you get his phone off Him at the weekend to have a look ?

[CherieBabySpliffUp]

Cross post. I would do as others have suggested and try putting the number into Facebook

[Delatron]

Picture messages though too? I'd be doing a bit of fishing around.