AIBU my husband is very 'laid back' (he would say, I say just lazy and careless) when it comes to car maintenance. It's one of his very few responsibilities as he uses the car to commute to work every day, I barely use it. It was serviced last summer and he was advised to replace all of the tyres within a few months/so many 1000 miles after the service. I've had to nag him numerous times to do it and every time I'm greeted with the same incredulous eye rolling reaction so I try not to say anything (this is recurrent theme in our relationship but that's another story).
Yesterday he had to take the car in to get the headlights replaced as they stopped working and when I saw the report it said the tyres were 'dangerously below the legal limit' and measured 0.5mm. He said he had to sign some sort of waiver so they would do the work.
I didn't get angry but I told him I was shocked and upset that he'd let it get to that point, driving himself and us and the kids around with such a dangerous car, not only risking our safety and other peoples but also risking a hefty fine if we got pulled over. His reaction was along the lines of 'so what, nothing's happened, you're overreacting.' Also suggesting that because he didn't know it was that bad I can't be angry with him.
I then asked him to leave the car at home and I would take it to the local garage so he didn't have to drive it another 50 miles like that but he insisted on taking to work and getting them done at kwik fit in his lunch break.
I ignored him all last night and he just carried on acting like I was being OTT and eventually I confronted him and said I felt like I couldn't trust him (this is the latest in a long history of laziness and neglect and an attitude of leave it to the last minute and someone else (me) will probably do it) and he just threw it back in my face.
I just want to know if other people think he's in the wrong and should have at least apologised. If it was me I would've been mortified (not that I would have ever let it get to that point but I could give him the benefit of the doubt if he showed a bit of remorse).
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Larryduff · 24/01/2018 12:42
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