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ObiJuanKenobi Tue 23-Jan-18 22:36:37

So afriend of mine started working for/with Younique about 2 years ago. At the start I was badgered into buying a lipstick - it was expensive and crap.
Ever since I've steered clear, left her Facebook group and turned off all notifications from her but my fuck is she relentless!!

She's just sent me the 4th private Facebook message in about 10days asking when I'm free for a catch up coffee but I'm terrified it's going to be a pitch sad

Please help me write a polite message that won't be a friendship ender but will get the message across that I'm a) not interested in joining her Hun team and b) i don't want to buy any overpriced make up or throw a party

Idontdowindows Tue 23-Jan-18 22:38:43

"Hey <friend> I'm looking forward to catching up with you over a coffee, I can do <a>, <b> or <c> dates. Just to let you know, I'm not into Younique at all, I prefer my own brands, so let's do just us and not work, ok?"

GladAllOver Tue 23-Jan-18 22:39:44

Unfortunately, no polite reply will work with someone hooked on MLM.

Your post above sums it up very well. You could do nothing better that send it to her.

shakeyourcaboose Tue 23-Jan-18 22:41:20

Vomity but- hey hun, totes would love to, have just been offered info about this fab business op and really think you are perfect fit!- ? Scare away with mlm threat??

ReanimatedSGB Tue 23-Jan-18 22:41:31

And if she does start on about her shitty makeup, say 'Look, I'm not into it, let's talk about something else'. And if she keeps on, get up and go home. One of the worst thing about these poxy MLMs is the way they wreck friendships, because it's impossible to stay friends with someone who sees you as, basically, a mug with money they can scam out of you.

exexpat Tue 23-Jan-18 22:43:41

"Love to catch up as long as you can promise no sales pitches or recruitment drives (smiley face). Don't you hate it when people let their work take precedence over their friendships?"

sausagerollsrock Tue 23-Jan-18 22:44:08

Something like ‘yes sounds great, I’m free on the xxxx? Hope you're not going to be trying flog me younique the whole time though. Smiley face or something’

Jupiter15 Tue 23-Jan-18 22:47:32

It’s so difficult, I have been on a ‘coffee catch up’ that turned into my friend trying to get me to join her mum business. I have always tried to be supportive but i’m just not interested. I don’t know what you can say. I’ve found that if i’m really supportive and show interest she thinks that’s an opportunity to sell me things but if I were to just say I’m not interested she would take offence.

Dogsmom Tue 23-Jan-18 22:48:05

I'd give her the benefit of the doubt and if she started trying to sell it just be honest and say no thanks then refuse future offers to meet up.

Jupiter15 Tue 23-Jan-18 22:48:07

MLM not mum!

ObiJuanKenobi Tue 23-Jan-18 22:48:35

I think I'm going to suggest taking our toddlers to soft play with another friend, that way we won't be talking too much my twins are horrors at soft play.

It's such a shame, she used to be so nice sad she's messaged DP asking if I'm okay as she's not heard back from me in ages and about a valentines offer hmm

barkingfly Tue 23-Jan-18 22:49:15

I recommend these folks:

Partyfops Tue 23-Jan-18 22:51:21

Just apologise saying that you ignored it as you thought it was a sales pitch and you rarely aren't interests in her products as you have your own preferred brands. But as it's not you would love to meet up for a coffee and really looking forward to a chinwag.

Emily7708 Tue 23-Jan-18 22:52:32

What a nightmare - it would be soft play or nothing with me. I’m surprised that she’s still flogging the dead horse after two years - most of my FB friends who got into MLM only lasted a year or so before seeing the light.

honeyroar Tue 23-Jan-18 22:58:19

That's really cheeky - her messaging your OH and pushing a valentines offer.

One of my friends started being really pushy about FL and I ended up having words via a message- telling her I wasn't interested and was annoyed by all the messages. She was a bit shocked but backed off (not a close though).

I'm currently staying opposite FL's headquarters. It's palatial! I want to say to all my friends doing it that this is where your money is going!

DecoysBitch Tue 23-Jan-18 22:58:47

This happened to me and I found it insulting . Had moved away (for years) and come back to the area. "Friend" contacted me for a catch-up, which turned out to be a full sales-pitch for her shite. DFOD.

Pidlan Tue 23-Jan-18 22:58:52

Go to the soft play. She'll try and flog you something, and then you say, "Ah thanks but no, there's something in younique stuff that really doesn't suit my skin. I've found this other stuff that suits me far better. So anyway, how are you?"

MrsJasonIsbell Tue 23-Jan-18 22:59:57

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ObiJuanKenobi Tue 23-Jan-18 23:01:13

Okay I've said

"Hello X sorry I've been a bit quiet lately I've been getting loads of sales messages lately so been ignoring messenger a bit! Would love to catch up, we could take the boys to (soft play place) next week, I'm free X and Y. It'll be nice to just chill out with the kids and forget about work, make up and selling houses for a couple of hours!"

blush I'm such a coward I really want to tell her where to shove her presenter kit blush

tillytrotter1 Tue 23-Jan-18 23:01:29

Love to come over, it'll give me a chance to familiarise you with the wonderful Amway cleaning products that I now represent.
You'll not hear from her for a while!

BoofayTheOompaLoompaSlayer Tue 23-Jan-18 23:18:04

I've blocked so many friends and family members because of sodding mlms. Forever Living and Yonnique do my head in in particular.
I cannot stand how people who are supposed to be my friends/cousin etc now only get in touch to do their shite sales pitch.

I also find it so sad how easily they got sucked into these schemes. They all scream of desperation in their fb posts.

I unfollow them and remove myself from the inevitable vip group they add me to.

snash12 Tue 23-Jan-18 23:21:54

There is a really good blog / website about how to help friends or relatives who are caught up in MLM's.

If you google "Elle beau" and "younique" you should be able to see her website. It's quite scary what these companies are doing

AnnieAnoniMouse Tue 23-Jan-18 23:30:31

Well done! Let’s hope she takes the hint.

I’ve had friends do various things like this and try to ride it out, it doesn’t usually last too long before reality bites them on the arse...and tbf YEARS AGO I did Herbalife, Avon, some shake diet thing I can’t remember the name of and probably others I’ve long since forgotten...thankfully I didn’t lose any friends over it (either way).

buttfacedmiscreant Wed 24-Jan-18 00:22:37

"Hey friend, lovely to hear from you. Would love to meet up for coffee but wanted to let you know that one of my NY resolutions is to never buy from home-based sales again (less GRRR inducing than "MLMs"). Let me know if you still want to meet up smile"

buttfacedmiscreant Wed 24-Jan-18 00:25:56

Sorry, should have refreshed before posting.

If you do meet up and she mentions it (and if she is still involved she will) then shut her down with "it's not for me, thanks though" ::big smile:: ... and do a broken record if she keeps going on about how wonderful it is
"yeah cool you love it, but it's not for me" ::big smile:: "great you've made money. Not for me though" and keep using the same exact phrase until she gives up.

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