AIBU to next time tell him to fuck off?(410 Posts)
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Parking. I get the frustration for people living near schools but I never park illegally and never block people in. This evening at 4:30 I parked up in my usual spot about 2 doors down from the school as we are not allowed to park in the school car park. Bloke in van pulled in behind me, gesturing wildly. Got out his car and banged on my window, demanding that I move my car so He could park outside his house. Several times I head tilted and said ‘why’ and he repeated himself, each time just a little bit more aggressively. I had turned off the car and picked up my mobile to speak to my eldest to see if he’d picked up a loaf on the way home. Once I’d done that (man still shouting at me),I moved the car across the road but walked back past him to a very insincere ‘thank you’. Repeated again that my car was taxed and insured and that as I was legally parked, under no obligation to move my car. He then got really aggressive and yelled at me that he was ‘going to report’ me for being on my mobile. I laughed and said yes, in a legally parked up car with the engine turned off. So his response to that was that it was illegal to use a mobile in a car.
I shouldn’t have moved, I know. I was wrong, AIBU to stalk that parking space so next time I can tell him to do one?!
Am really shaken.
He sounds aggressive. If he was actually hammering on your car I'd video him. Bet that would give him pause for thought.
Oh good idea. Hopefully will never run into him again but I’ll consider that if he starts again, thanks.
If you're shaken then I don't recommend antagonising him and escalating the situation further! Sorry though, hope you feel better soon.
Hmm I'm going to be honest here.. although he went about it the wrong way I am with him on this.
I used to live next to a school and the amount of people who abandoned cars all over our paths, bumped up kerbs, across peoples front windows.. it was a joke!! I'm pretty sure if someone parked in front of your house the same time everyday (you said your 'usual spot') then you're bound to get pissed off. Knowing that when you get home you'll have a load of cars to contend with in order to park outside/near your he. It gets old. And seeing as you do so I'm going to guess 5 days a week, I'm surprised you've only now been challenged about it.
i think you could have just moved, you were annoying and passive aggressive about it with the head tilting etc. he could have gone about it better, but you could have been nicer. what’s the big deal to move across the road?
I'm on his side, that would seriously have pissed me off someone parked outside my house meaning I couldn't. Really selfish to intentionally waste time ring your son just to antagonise him.
If you live near a school it's unfortunately a normal occurrence and if you don't like it you should move.
It sucks that there's no parking provided by schools but that's the decision of Government not the school.
I can see from both sides but to be fair he knew the school was there when he moved there so knew there might be an issue!
He should not have been so aggressive. Its not his right to park there.
I wouldn’t have moved. Fuck that noise.
Some aggressive intimidating bell end being upset he couldn’t park directly outside his house? Diddums. Move along sunshine.
"I'm on his side, that would seriously have pissed me off someone parked outside my house meaning I couldn't"
Why FoodGloriousFud? You have no special entitlement to park outside your house. Actually, unlike the poster, I wouldn't have moved at all
Ring 101 is there no law against being aggresive and scaring you over a parking space?
Um, there is no right to park outside your own house if you live on a public road! I get pissed off with commuters parking on our street (and secretly give them the evil eye, in my head ) but I actually know that I don't have a leg to stand on. They are acting perfectly legally and while it's annoying, if you really don't like it then move to the sticks and get your own driveway. That especially applies to people who live near schools, town centres, railway stations, football stadiums etc. What do they expect?!
We live opposite a school, it's a fairly big secondary. Of course there are loads of cars in the mornings and evenings, if you buy a house near a school surely it's fairly obvious that this is pretty likely? If I was particularly bothered by it I would have bought a house elsewhere. It's like buying a house next to a railway line and then being annoyed that you can hear trains.
I probably wouldn't antagonise him if it were me but I if he does it again I would video him and report him to the police.
He handled it badly, but I am with him
In what way are you with someone who demanded a woman moved her car to accomodate his desire to park in a particular place?
I know it’s your legal right to park on the road but I do understand his frustration. The head tilty nonsense could have escalated things and frankly I wouldn’t encourage that when you are frequently there with a child. He could have keyed your car, got violent etc. If you felt threatened why do all the head tilting wankery?
Legally you are right, IMO not morally.
Would you have moved if he had asked you politely? I live in a road that is a stones throw away from two primary’s, one either side. The amount of people who park in front of my house gets tedious, yes they are legally parked, but I then have to sit waiting for them to leave before I park my car after picking up DS. To be fair they are usually apologetic. Doesn’t sound like either of you handled it well, I am trying to picture your head tilt though and it sounds patronising and cringey.
Yes YABU to tell him to fuck off, because you have no more right to park there than anyone else and it is a bit annoying if you've taken the space outside his own home. As there was clearly another space right across the road then I don't see the issue in you moving your car and waiting there. He was wrong to be aggressive though. If it was me I would feel embarrassed and just move to another spot.
The head tilty nonsense could have escalated things and frankly I wouldn’t encourage that when you are frequently there with a child. He could have keyed your car, got violent etc. If you felt threatened why do all the head tilting wankery?
Yes, little woman, if the big shouty man gets violent or attacks your property, its your fault for tilting your head and parking legally.
Oh we have a vile couple who live in the road of my sons school, it’s a special school and obviously many of the parents have blue badges as the kids can’t walk far, anyway these two idiots scream, shout and take photos of the parents with their children and generally intimidate them, they have a drive and the wife can’t is a rubbish driver and can’t get out unless nobody is parked anywhere near!! I started parking just in front her drive do a decent driver would have no problem but she went ballistic threatening me with traffic wardens , police, lawyers, I told her what I thought of her and if she attacked one more family for legally parking outside school for max ten mins a day I’d park there every single day and make her life hell!!! Funny enough not a peep out of the old witch since!! People don’t own the road in front of their house!!!
I live next to a school. Sometimes I can't park outside my house. I also live near a row of shops. Sometimes I can't park outside my house. Yes it's annoying but I did notice the shops and the school when I bought my house and I have no legal right to be able to park directly outside my front door. People that think they do drive me crackers.
You weren't unreasonable and if parking outside his house is so important to him he probably should've bought a house with a drive.
One of my neighbours stopped me once and told me off for parking on my own street because she thought I was an "inconsiderate school run mum". Some people are really weird about parking.
Yes, but I still think it's unreasonable for anyone to tell someone to fuck off if they're asked to move from a space outside their home. I do think they were both in the wrong here though because the guy shouldn't have been aggressive, but if I was asked to move from outside someone's home, I would just apologise and move and not tell them to fuck off, which was the OPs question.
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