I have a 3 year old son. My brother died the year before he was born, and his widow has never met him, shown any interest in him or sent him presents. My brother had a daughter and a slightly older stepdaughter, whom I have always treated as a niece, seeing the family regularly when the girls were little (I moved away before my brother died, so haven't seen them much since then). I still buy birthday and Christmas presents for both girls, of roughly equally value, but my brother's widow has told my dad that she has no interest in my son, won't be buying for him ever and feels no connection with him, and that I shouldn't buy for my step-niece either. I don't feel I should stop - although I don't really see my step-niece any more as I live so far away, I saw her a lot when she was a little girl and she knew me as her auntie. She's 12 now, and my blood-niece is 10.
So... AIBU to carry on sending presents? And AIBU to feel a bit hurt at what her mum said about feeling nothing for my son? I know my brother would hate her attitude, we were very close but to be honest I never got on especially well with his wife so perhaps that's why.
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GeekyBlinders · 23/01/2018 12:05
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