because I don't want to share a bed with my 5 year old?
MIL told me I am. She lets DS share her bed when he has sleepovers at her house. I have never liked to bed share; he has always been in his own cot, then bed. On the few occasions we have had to bed share (when staying with relatives etc) I have hated it. DS could pass for 6/7 and takes up so much room. He always wants to be lying on top of you/right next to you. I can't just push him off the way I would with DH if he was being overly cuddly and annoying to me. I have never had a good nights sleep with DS in the bed. Its like torture to me.
I think beds are for sleeping/sex. We don't have a TV or anything interesting to do in our bedroom. MIL has a TV and lets DS eat snacks, play on the ipad an generally chill out before falling asleep in bed with her. This is obviously no kind of bed time routine so we would not do it at our house anyway.
He has sometimes cries to be allowed to sleep in our bed and its getting me down, especially after MIL told me I am heartless and cruel and should just let him sleep in our bed. She said I am worse than an animal, that even animals sleep with their young. Some animals also eat their young. We are not animals so I find this a pointless comparison.
I don't want to see DS upset but I also don't want him in our bed, making me have a terrible nights sleep, feeling groggy and tired at work, ruining mine and DH's sex life and so on.
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