We have a 5mo and live near my inlaws but 300miles from my parents. My DS is the second grandchild for my inlaws and they see my nephew several times a week and my FIL used to look after him for a whole day a week before he started school.
My inlaws have literally only seen our baby a few times and have never offered to help me in anyway with him. A few weeks ago
I got upset and told my DH that I felt unsupported . He agreed that his parents make way more effort with the other grandchild compared to with our DS and asked them to see him more.
Since then both of them have messaged me and asked to see him which is great... the only issue is my FIL has started coming over every week to bath the baby. I told him that the baby gets a bit ratty around 5.30 and his bed time is 6-6.30 so it would be best if he came at 4.30. He’s self employed and works from home so there’s no reason why he couldn’t come at this time.
All three times he’s come to do this he’s arrived about 5.20 by which time the baby is grumpy and needs to be in the bath and then to sleep. FIL wants to play with him and the baby always ends up crying ..... I know a lot of people say “my baby never cries” but unless my DS is tired or hungry he really doesn’t cry much, he loves bathtime normally but all three times FIL has bathed him he’s been inconsolably crying.
He then demands to hold him after the bath when all the baby wants is a breastfeed and a cuddle from me to fall asleep. FIL holds him while he cries and it makes me feel sick to watch, all I want to do is take DS off him. When FIL leaves the baby is then past the point of tiredness and takes hours to settle to sleep when normally he’d b asleep and settled by 6.30.
I feel guilty because I can see FIL is making an effort to see the baby but I dont think it’s fair to keep upsetting DS , he’s ruining his bath time and making him overtired.
Also part of the reason we wanted the inlaws to see the baby more was to take a little bit of pressure off me, but this situation is just making my days longer and more frustrating by having to deal with an overtired baby all evening which then leaves no time for me and my DH to even eat tea in peace or have a conversation.
AIBU?
AIBU to not want other people to bath my baby ?
MummyCat1711 · 23/01/2018 08:26
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