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WorkingMumOnTheGo Tue 23-Jan-18 00:31:25

My OH has been out more times than I can count to go to his mates who are complete alcoholics after work and have a drink and then go into town because his alky mates apparently make him go hmmWhen I planned to have a girls night out, he made me feel really guilty saying I need to realise what is important my family or getting drunk and doing stupid things and I told him that he is a cheeky b@stard and a hypocrite but then I never did go out in the end cos I couldn't be bothered with any more confrontation. He didn't text me all day while at work today, I rang and rang an hour after he finished and he didn't reply and he came stumbling into the door eventually and guess what! He was absolutely hammered. He said he was forced to have alcohol! I had dinner all ready to eat like I do every single night and he was sick everywhere all over the kitchen sink. I told him I had enough of him and his sh ! t and I want him out of my face and sent him to stay to the spare room. I am definitely planning a night out now, I don't care what he says I won't be guilt tripped into staying in like I do every single night after taking care of my DS angry I just feel really angry I can't even sleep! sad

Bedsox Tue 23-Jan-18 00:48:17

Planning a night out? Id be planning on leaving the selfish bastard for good. Im sorry but your H sounds like a dick!!

Jamiefraserskilt Tue 23-Jan-18 01:27:50

I do hope you left it for him to clear up? Knob.

Trashboat Tue 23-Jan-18 02:02:12

Yep, I'd be planning more than a night out!! What selfish loser!

Trashboat Tue 23-Jan-18 02:03:11

'Irritated' I'd be fucking fuming!

ObscuredbyFog Tue 23-Jan-18 02:18:11

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Why do you tolerate his behaviour?

Throw him out, he has no respect for you or himself.

Why are you only irritated by this? You ought to have been beyond livid the first time it happened and laid the law down, then when it happened the second time, you should have chucked him and all his stuff out into the street and had nothing more to do with him.

He is a waste of space.

You deserve much better, get rid of him.

Topseyt Tue 23-Jan-18 02:21:28

Dump him.

Shitty behaviour like that rarely improves.

Coyoacan Tue 23-Jan-18 02:35:33

Definitely not a keeper, this one.

Cracker09jacker Tue 23-Jan-18 03:01:41

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SpareASquare Tue 23-Jan-18 04:44:58

I think it's so very sad that you would set the bar so fucking low OP. Why? Why do you think you're not worth anything more than this?

Honestly, you don't want to wake up in 10 years time when he's left and you have NOONE because you let him isolate you and ensure you didn't actually have any friends left. Keep saying you can't go out or making excuses for never doing so and they won't hang around sad

ThumbWitchesAbroad Tue 23-Jan-18 05:16:57

Never mind the spare room, he'd be out the door.
A one-off is one thing, but this isn't a one-off, it's all the time.
He IS a hypocrite, but also a waster.
Get rid of him and find someone who has some respect for both you and himself.

Mummyoflittledragon Tue 23-Jan-18 05:27:45

Oh bless him. He’s being forced to do something he doesn’t want to do (go out). So he’s forcing you to do what you don’t want to do (stay in). Afterall he’s only protecting you. If only you’d protect him too and he wouldn’t have to go out and get hammered with his mates. You really are sooo lucky to have him. hmm

Please stop letting him gaslight you.

Coastalcommand Tue 23-Jan-18 05:32:09

Sounds like it’s time for him to pack his bags.

KimmySchmidt1 Tue 23-Jan-18 05:52:34

Why are you cooking his dinner? If you think the nicer you are to him the nicer he will be to you, then you have fundamentally misunderstood men. They need boundaries, otherwise they will take take take.

pictish Tue 23-Jan-18 06:11:44

Come on OP, you must know this isn't on. I mean obviously you do or you wouldn't be posting here...but you're putting up with him, why?

So it's one rule for him but quite another for you. There is so much wrong in this I can't even begin to pick it apart...so I won't. All I will say is this; he'd hate being in a relationship with me. He wouldn't be pulling a scrap of this pish and if he did, he'd be alone.

Someone will only ever treat you like you let them. Time to make some big changes. x

jack2001 Tue 23-Jan-18 06:13:37

Get rid

ElderflowerWaterIsDelish Tue 23-Jan-18 06:28:30

If he is hanging around alcoholics and getting drunk himself all the time, could he possibly be alcoholic himself?

You do realise that his behaviour isn't normal, nobody forces anyone to drink alcohol, he will have drank it of his own free will and consent (next time he says he was forced to drink it, call his bluff, pick up your mobile and say you are calling the police to report it, and watch his reaction to find out the truth)..

He is not being fair on you and your DS, you both shouldn't have to put up with it,

You should give him him a choice, leave and don't come back until he has Gone to the drs and see about rehab/counselling/AA and whatever else he needs to put this behaviour behind him, if you don't try to make him get help, he won't get help on his own, alcoholics are addicts and he won't give it up easily

flumpybear Tue 23-Jan-18 06:33:10

He's a selfish twat!

YouTheCat Tue 23-Jan-18 07:26:33

I had one like this. If I was going out he'd make sure he was back too late for me to go. If I went to a friends, he'd phone constantly so I'd end up coming home. But him going out every day drinking was just his 'down time'. His mother enabled him too.

Life is so much better since I ditched him.

StudentMum92 Tue 23-Jan-18 07:34:17

You need to leave him not plan a night out out of spite. I also wouldn't leave DC with such an irresponsible parent.

TheDailyMailIsADisgustingRag Tue 23-Jan-18 07:38:12

Well, doesn’t he sound a catch hmm?

I feel ill myself thinking about the sick in the sink. I’d be seriously reconsidering my future with him tbh.

Guilting you into staying at home is a dick move on its own tbh.

Why are you with this bullying, hypocritical, barfing charmer?

WorkingMumOnTheGo Tue 23-Jan-18 07:52:27

I almost did leave him a few years ago but he was suffering from depression and was on the verge of committing suicide so I didn't because I was worried that'd what he would do! Somewhere inside me wishes that I did though sad

Eliza9917 Tue 23-Jan-18 07:58:54

Leave him, I wouldn't put up with that nonsense.

Willow2017 Tue 23-Jan-18 08:50:30

Aww bless does his throat hurt from the funnel his mates use to pour the drink down his neck? Do they abduct him from work and bundle him into a car and take him to thier house?

Sod that. Tell him if his mates alcohol are so much important to him than you and your child he can go and stay with them and get hammered as much as he bloody likes till he realises what he has lost but it will be too late then.

Do not put up with this behaviour.
HE CHOSES ALCOHOL AND HIS MATES OVER YOU AND YOUR CHILD. That tells you all you need to know.
Dont pander to thus any longer he is taking you for a ride. You cant go out cos its selfish but he can go get hammered regularly and its fine?

Get your ducks in a row and kick him into touch.

TheDailyMailIsADisgustingRag Tue 23-Jan-18 08:53:40

Aww bless does his throat hurt from the funnel his mates use to pour the drink down his neck?

This is the second thread where someone’s DP has whined that they ‘have to’ do something immature and antisocial ‘because they don’t want to look silly in front of their mates’. Honestly, I can’t think of a less attractive quality than a try-hard who disrespects his family in order to appease his mates. Spineless arseholes.

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