Advice needed!
TLDR - Dsc in us, concerned re safeguarding- what do I do?
My DP has 2 children who currently live in America with his exW.
They moved there around 18months ago (few months after me and DP met) as she had met a man online and was marrying him. Agreement was made informally (not via court order) that access was to be regularly made as DP was a very involved parent.
Since she went there contact has been sporadic and dropped off to no contact. The eldest DC is on PS4 and has a (monitored) mobile phone. On xmas day we managed to skype/ FaceTime eldest DC who let slip they were not with the new husband and were ‘house sitting’ on xmas day. Due to poor weather in the states this child has been left unattended during the day there recently and has been playing on PS4 with DP on evening (our time). we have found out the relationship has broken down, that new husband has been hospitalised for MH issues at some point in last few months and that they (this weekend) moved in with mummy’s new boyfriend.
We know nothing of this from ExP and are increasingly concerned for children particularly as the elder child seems to be main carer for younger child.
I have done quite a bit of googling re hauge convention and we have spoken to civil legal advice line - to be told that we don’t qualify as we earn too much (about 45k together before tax) despite advice seeming to be that in cases such as this help of some sort would be available?
Basically what do I do? The children are now living at an unknown location with an unknown adult. They have no access to their father or extended loving and involved family and our feeling is that they are unhappy. We want them safe. As someone who used to work in a child protection environment every red flag I have is up. How the hell do we fix this? HELP!!
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Craftyfox · 22/01/2018 18:28
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