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PossiblyPFB Sun 21-Jan-18 23:08:09

I can’t stop thinking of this so just posting now- the other day I was at a station and the escalator was unexpectedly out of service, and I witnessed a random man offer to help a woman who was carrying a child and pushing along a pushchair - but bizarrely, he offered to carry the baby for her, not the pram.... it was all a bit weird- she accepted (I wouldn’t have allowed my baby into a stranger’s arms) but then she had the awkwardness of carrying the pram up and over. She wasn’t particularly struggling with the pram, otherwise I would’ve helped her, but, I just thought how very odd that this man offered to take her child rather than the pram? I kept eyes on him as it felt odd to me - she had to shout at him to stop and come back as he was casually walking off towards the barriers with her baby before she collected herself at the bottom. All was well, he duly handed her baby back, but - AIBU that this was just baffling that if he was really trying to help this woman, he didn’t offer to help her with the pram instead of the baby? What on earth was he thinking, as he obviously didn’t have bad motives? And her agreeing to a stranger to carry her baby!?! Anyone else witnessed something like this, where it’s an offer of help, but just not what would be the most normal way of carrying it out??

SumThucker Sun 21-Jan-18 23:11:49

A bit odd, yes, but I wouldn't read too deeply into it.

Bambamber Sun 21-Jan-18 23:19:48

People just have different ways of thinking.

I was a train station once and a lady had some shopping and a child in a buggy. She took the child out the buggy to get up the stairs to get over a bridge so was trying to juggle a child, buggy and shopping. I asked if she would like a hand, in my mind I was going to carry the buggy or the shopping. But she turned around and just dumped her small child in my arms. I'm not sure who was more shocked, me or the child grin

Needaneusername Sun 21-Jan-18 23:25:41

Bambamber* - that sounds a bit like what happened to me except I was the mother. A woman offered to hold dd's hand and help her up the stairs across a bridge in a train station while I held the buggy and shopping. I didn't even question it actually. I've never thought anything of it, except how kind she was, until this moment. The buggy was bulky and hard to carry and it was much easier for her to hold dd's hand then it would have been for her to carry the buggy. She was quite a bit older than me, maybe in her early 70s so perhaps wouldn't have been able to manage the buggy and that's why she offered to help dd. Ive never thought this deeply it about it before lol.

GreyFluffball Sun 21-Jan-18 23:28:18

Tbf it's the kind of thing I can see my DH doing, and then later he'd tell me and I'd explain it was odd and he'd be surprised anyone might have thought it was odd!

Weedsnseeds1 Sun 21-Jan-18 23:42:30

Just sounds like something that felt logical at the time.
I was once following a woman with a toddler and a baby in a pram down an escalator at an airport. She wrestled the pram into place and the toddler pulled away from her hand and stepped back to the top at the last moment.
I had just stepped on, so grabbed toddler and transported him to the bottom.
Silent handover to mother at the bottom, I just carried on walking. Maybe I should have just left him at the top?

PossiblyPFB Sun 21-Jan-18 23:48:59

weeds actually I saw him look at her, see the predicament, and then say, “can I help you? Ok, I’ll take the baby, ” - I guess my point is that for a strong looking, youngish, able man, I would have expected him to pick up the pram for her rather than the small baby! It didn’t feel logical at all!! Agree in your situation it was very different !

TheCowWentMoo Sun 21-Jan-18 23:54:39

It probably just seemed logical at the time. He probably saw her struggling and offered the first form of help that came to his head. Also maybe he just likes babies, not in a sinister way just a cute way so got carried away with it's cuteness and that's why he carried on walking.

Namechangetempissue Mon 22-Jan-18 00:01:25

Maybe he couldn't lift anything heavy or cumbersome? I look very physically strong and fit (athlete) yet if I'm in the grip of sciatica or my dreadful knees are having a bad day (overworked!) I can't lift much at all without being in agony. You would never think it looking at me. So while I could probably manage a tiny baby I couldn't wrangle an awkward pram. Maybe not of course, but sounds like he was being nice! I would appreciate the offer.

sausagerollsrock Mon 22-Jan-18 00:05:50

I see what you’re saying, but isn’t it sad that we see the bad in what was probably just a kind gesture.

SparklyLeprechaun Mon 22-Jan-18 00:14:32

I'd assume he couldn't carry the pram for whatever reason. Reminds me of this couple I saw the other day, she was lugging a huge suitcase and another bag and he was carrying a box with the cutest kitten.

PurpleDaisies Mon 22-Jan-18 00:16:35

I think you’re making far too many leaps here.

A man did a nice thing to help someone out.

TattyCat Mon 22-Jan-18 00:28:04

Oh wow. This post has made me realise that I've not seen a buggy AT ALL in my town since I moved here, 15 months ago. Really. Not one.

I have however, seen lots of old people albeit none in wheelchairs or buggies...

TattyCat Mon 22-Jan-18 00:28:49

I see what you’re saying, but isn’t it sad that we see the bad in what was probably just a kind gesture.


crunchymint Mon 22-Jan-18 00:28:52

The fact he was walking off with the child would worry me actually and make me wonder if he had any alternative motives.

TickyTakky Mon 22-Jan-18 00:36:41

I think it's easier to work out how to carry a baby than a buggy so I'd not be suprised to see a man offer to carry the baby. I know it may come as a shock but there are loads of males who wouldn't have a problem holding a baby. Both my sons babysat little kids and one babysat a baby.

I wouldn't have found this odd at all.

TrinitySquirrel Mon 22-Jan-18 00:39:39

My 7m old is almost 25lbs. I'd rather carry the bloody pram.

PossiblyPFB Mon 22-Jan-18 10:04:02

crunchymint yes he walked ahead at a normal pace- he was 20 feet or more ahead of her with her child over the stairs and didn’t wait for her at the bottom. Obviously he was just an innocent, helpful and well meaning man as it turns out - but it was an odd situation that he wouldn’t consider she might prefer he walk more closely to her, if not wrangle the pram instead of the baby! confused

mmgirish Mon 22-Jan-18 10:23:00

I offered to help a lady on a bus with her pram and she handed me the baby instead...

ZoopDragon Mon 22-Jan-18 10:33:50

Maybe he was a dad and it just felt natural to pick up the baby?

It wouldn't have bothered me.

ZoopDragon Mon 22-Jan-18 10:35:57

People have handed babies to me when I've offered to help with a buggy. I can see why- a wriggly thrashing baby is hard to carry when you've got a buggy!

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