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Boss blanked me. Upset

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icenasliceplease Fri 19-Jan-18 21:49:35

Ok. So went out to a pub tonight for a drink.
In walks my 'current' boss. She sees me I know she does does an about turn and completely blanks me (turns her back to me)
Am I BU to be upset?
what drives people like this?
I would never be this rude. Probably explains why I will never be a 'Boss'

I won't lie. It did throw me a bit. sad

MamaImCrazyNow Fri 19-Jan-18 21:50:39

Unnecessary and rude. YANBU

Rainboho Fri 19-Jan-18 21:51:06

YABU she doesn’t want to socialise with you.

minisoksmakehardwork Fri 19-Jan-18 21:52:02

Yanbu. A polite head nod/wave just to acknowledge is fine. No need to be sipping away and trying to make small talk when neither of you want to.

Maybe it says more about her than you.

icenasliceplease Fri 19-Jan-18 21:52:21

After how she behaved, I definitely wouldn't want to socialize with her.
She showed her true colors.

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar Fri 19-Jan-18 21:52:35

Maybe there to meet someone she'd rather work colleagues didn't know about? Our maybe she couldn't face any work talk for done reason

Is she generally ok in work? If so, I'd say it's probably not personal and just forget it.

hahahaIdontgetit Fri 19-Jan-18 21:52:47

Are you absolutely sure she saw you?

I wear contact lenses for work, but don't when I'm going out. I wouldn't be able to see someone's features clearly across a room. (A few metres away).

Ethylred Fri 19-Jan-18 21:54:08

Why 'current' boss?
Why the inverted commas?
Enquiring minds want to know.

icenasliceplease Fri 19-Jan-18 21:54:20

I'm pretty sure she saw me.
She does have form for favoritism.

icenasliceplease Fri 19-Jan-18 21:55:33

Why current boss?
She is my boss. As of now.

uncoolnn Fri 19-Jan-18 21:55:55

I wouldn't expect her to make small talk outside of work necessarily but I do think it's rude to not even acknowledge you. That's just basic manners surely?

icenasliceplease Fri 19-Jan-18 21:57:05

I must admit, I am probably fairly low down on her food chain.
Hence the snotty ignorance.

LurkingQuietly Fri 19-Jan-18 21:57:15

She dealt with it badly but could there be an element of her thinking you wouldn't want your boss there when you were trying to unwind? As a boss myself I've definitely tried to be empathetic to the fact my team were unlikely to really relax with me there no matter how well we got on.

icenasliceplease Fri 19-Jan-18 21:58:17

I wouldn't expect her to make small talk outside of work necessarily

It was a pub.
Would it have killed her to say Hello?
I tried to catch her eye, but to no avail.

Reddlion Fri 19-Jan-18 21:59:53

rude for no reason

Theresnonamesleft Fri 19-Jan-18 22:00:24

Are you there with work colleagues?
Is she talking to them?
When you say she’s now your boss is one of you New?

MyKingdomForACaramel Fri 19-Jan-18 22:00:38

Ridiculously rude - yanbu.

icenasliceplease Fri 19-Jan-18 22:02:40

I don't care really. Says more about her really.

Ethylred Fri 19-Jan-18 22:02:45

No, not why current, why the inverted commas.

icenasliceplease Fri 19-Jan-18 22:03:49

Inverted commas are because she is my boss at this moment.

FrostyThirties0 Fri 19-Jan-18 22:06:48

OP doesn’t know

Believeitornot Fri 19-Jan-18 22:09:01

Maybe she didn’t actually see you.

Maybe she did see you and turned away quickly hoping you didn’t see her. Maybe she feels guilty but maybe she’s had enough of work!

Who knows. Better to think the best of people that the worst.

Thinkingofausername1 Fri 19-Jan-18 22:10:36

She might be like my dh and not want to socialise outside work. But absolutely no excuse not to say hello.

Withhindsight Fri 19-Jan-18 22:11:52

Is she having an affair with one of your colleagues and about to meet them?

icenasliceplease Fri 19-Jan-18 22:12:41

in the grand scheme of things I don't give a shit.
But I can't help thinking that in the land of Real, what makes an egotistical {boss} person get to such a stage that they think it's OK to be rude to someone.
Ignoring is rude.

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