Hi All,
I'm having a tough week in general with a lot of things, but wanted to vent on here about one thing that's got me down.
I am currently 14 weeks pregnant today, and I am 27 years old. My biological father left my mum and me when I was 2, and I had no contact with him throughout my life until I decided when I was about 20 I wanted to find him. I got his address and posted him a letter, and since then we had contact. about 1 year after we met again I moved about 200 miles away to be with my current partner and father of my child, and always try to see Dad once a year when I visit, twice if I can afford to. He has a wife (who's lovely, not wicked stepmother at all) and 2 daughters with her, I love them all dearly. I still live far away but try to visit as often as I can.
My Dad and his wife seem very well off, they both run their own businesses, have a big house with a hot tub, man cave with pool table etc etc, and buy expensive xmas presents for us (although I tell them not to, as we cant afford to do the same for them so we feel guilty)
Anyway, I have never asked Dad for money - ever. I have always made a point that I don't as I didn't want him to get the impression that I was using him for money, but this Christmas really hit me hard, and my other half has struggled to find work as hes self employed and we live in a very rural area. So we have had almost no food for about 2 weeks, no heating for about 3 weeks and I'm struggling to keep the electric meter out of the emergency.
So on Tuesday I asked Dad to borrow some money, I said if he cant its fine as i know everyones tight at the moment but explained it was for food heating and electric to show it wasn't for frivolous things. Next day arrives and he hasn't replied, I text him to ask if he received it and he says he did but will text me later about it as he wants to speak to my stepmum first, he also says they have been really busy as they had a security issue with one of their businesses at the weekend, so I obviously feel guilty straight away that I've nagged when they've got a lot on their plate, so I let him know that's fine and I'll speak to him later (and give my sympathies about whats happened).
It's now Friday...and that's the last I heard from him. I don't ask for money form anyone if I can help it, but if I do it's because I really have no alternative and it's necessary. It's really upset me that he has blanked me since, I get that he's probably had a lot on, but I'm not asking for a lot, and I have told him I will pay him back as soon as he wants.
Am I being unreasonable? If I am, go easy as I'm feeling pretty fragile. :)
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Fullofqs · 19/01/2018 14:34
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