Sorry I know this sounds ridiculous but bear with me. All the while I was growing up and up until my late 20's I was used to being around children and never even thought about how to talk to them, it was just natural. Then my life changed and I just didn't have any real contact with any kids at all (never had my own) for nearly 20 years. Then through meeting my husband I was in contact with children again.
The problem is I don't seem to be able to communicate right with them and come across sometimes sounding false or patronising. The other day BIL came round with his two sons aged 2 and 5. They've never visited before and came out of the blue, which was a bit of a shock (normally we see everyone when visiting FIL) and I came downstairs and heard the words 'Hi babies!' come out of my mouth. Whaaat! Of course the 2 year old was none the wiser and is still, in my eyes, a 'baby' but, as you can imagine, the 5 year old just looked at me with contempt!
Another time the family were all out having lunch and I said to the 6 year old 'did you enjoy your meal'? and he shouted 'It'a NOT a meal it's DINNER!' and ran off. He actually seemed upset.
I am fine with babies and very young children, toddlers but when they start getting older I'm worried what they think of me so I can't be natural!
I feel like an ancient weird out-of-touch old fool - I am in my early 50's. I know if I'd have had children of my own I wouldn't have this problem. Children used to always really like me and I always loved children.
So what can I do? I know the answer is just spend more time with kids but it's not really practical to spend time with these particular kids - I feel I need to borrow some or go on a course?? Any suggestions?
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WingsOnMyBoots · 18/01/2018 09:00
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