.....Because I’m not overly interested/ invested in their children?
Bit of background, I’m a sociable person with lots of friends, so it’s not that people generally just don’t like ‘me’ if that makes sense? I got on well with one SIL (DB’s Wife) well before she had children. DH’s sister I have never particularly gelled with even before she had DC.
Now my dilemma/ paranoid thoughts is/ are I’m not overly bothered about children, if I’m honest I find them a little dull/ irritating at times. I’m happy enough to play with them for a bit and to enquire about their lives etc to their mums, but after a few hours I need to talk about something else other than ‘the children’
Both my SIL’s are very mumsy mums if that makes sense? They’ve kinda given up everything now they’ve had children and their whole live revolves around/ focuses solely on the children. They don’t like to talk about anything else and neither of them since having children 5 years ago have enquired into my life or asked how I am. The only time one of them really pays any interest in me is to ask when DH and I are going to ‘hurry up and have kiddies.’
They are both pretty cool towards me nowadays and I get the sense that me buying the children presents for birthdays and christmases and playing with them when I see them etc isn’t enough....because in truth I probably only see the children about 3 times a year. I sense that there is resentment there on both sides because of this, and probably the fact that I don’t often message either of them asking about the children much. In truth, when I’m with either of them in person ALL I chat about is their children, but I guess in between seeing them I don’t really speak to either of them.
I’m not close to either of them and in all honesty, have v little in common with either of them.
I’m just wondering mums of mumsnet, is this, would this be an issue for you? Do you mind if someone who isn’t very interested in children doesn’t take a shit load of interest in your child? Or does it offend you?
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Hotwaterbottlequeen · 16/01/2018 19:59
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