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What does this MEAN?!

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dolladollabeale Sat 13-Jan-18 13:42:01

AIBU to not understand what the FUCK this means.

So me and my ex split up and shortly after I found out I was pregnant. We remained split but stayed friends. All fine

More recently however, we've started talking all the time, it's lovely. Whenever we've seen each other the last few times, we've ended up sleeping together. (Really stupid I know to be muddling up a relationship when the baby should be #1 priority and we should be focusing simply on co-parenting but these things happen.)

So anyway I asked him last night what the fuck is actually going on with us. Like how does he feel about me? Where are we going with this? It needs to be sorted before baby is born because things are getting confusing.
His response...

Totally ignored everything I'd said and just replied this morning saying: "have a happy day you lovely and pretty girl xxx"

We never put kisses when we talk we don't say cutesie things to each other like that either we just talk about silly stuff and have a laugh.

So.. What the fuck!? Have not responded, probably just going to leave it. Can't read into it at all. AIBU to be completely Fucking confused and think that's a really shit weird response to something so serious.

Sorry for sounding like a teenager 🙄

araiwa Sat 13-Jan-18 13:43:44

Try not to have important conversations by text

Talk to him

TittyGolightly Sat 13-Jan-18 13:44:45

We never put kisses when we talk

Texting isn’t talking.

GlitterUnicornsAndAllThatJazz Sat 13-Jan-18 13:45:18

Urgh I hate the twee faux breezy Jamie Oliver style phrasing of his message

TheStoic Sat 13-Jan-18 13:45:52

Either he has no intention of responding to your questions, or that text wasn’t meant for you.

KarmaStar Sat 13-Jan-18 13:49:10

When you say you asked him I thought you meant face to face but I guess you meant via text?
Perhaps he didn't want to talk by text.
Meet up with him and have this conversation person.

CuriousaboutSamphire Sat 13-Jan-18 13:50:10

I was about to type what TheSToic said.

Either way, it doesn't sound like a great position for you to be in!

athingthateveryoneneeds Sat 13-Jan-18 13:51:44

Whatever it means, it isn't something good imo. Seems like he's taking advantage of you.

derangedmermaid Sat 13-Jan-18 13:52:11

Either he's acknowledging that you might be a bit mental with baby hormones and is trying to be cute.

Or that wasn't for you.

Mimsy123 Sat 13-Jan-18 13:54:36

I also agree that he probably didn’t mean to send that to you. It was meant for his mum. Only joking, but more than likely for a different pretty girl.

Pengggwn Sat 13-Jan-18 13:55:14

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Awwlookatmybabyspider Sat 13-Jan-18 13:57:34

It sounds to me like he's high on life and lOving the world. New girlfriend perhaps?

FrancisUnderwood Sat 13-Jan-18 13:57:45

He's just given you a MASSIVE swerve.

Stop servicing him in bed.

Oysterbabe Sat 13-Jan-18 13:58:14

He's just messing you around. Back off, stop sleeping with him and focus on just getting along as friends for your child's sake.

StopTheRoundabout Sat 13-Jan-18 14:04:33

You have now become a 'friend with benefits' type of arrangement and you happen to be pregnant with his child. He has it made. He'll have sex when he wants and not have to do half the load when it comes to being a parent or part of a family.

mummmy2017 Sat 13-Jan-18 14:15:10

Don't sleep with him, put on your nasty gotty knickers, the one's no one gets to see, and the oldest Bra, so you know when he comes you won't want him to see you in them, which will make you think twice before you let him get his leg over.
Meet him somewhere out side of your home..
Chuck washing on your bed, so you don't want him up there, again will make you rethink being his booty call.
Only by stopping the sex will you be able to find out what he wants to do.
Ask him about money for the baby, what and how he wants to play it...
Think of your child, do you want to be the OW, and one day find out he has met someone and either drops you, or thinks he can have his cake and eat it.

Blackteadrinker77 Sat 13-Jan-18 14:16:01

That was a fob off.

Stop putting out for him.

ThumbWitchesAbroad Sat 13-Jan-18 14:16:56

Got to admit, my first reaction was "that text wasn't meant for you".

And agree with others - stop letting him have sex with you, ffs. He may well be sleeping with someone else as well as you, and while it's always important to be aware of your and your partner's sexual health, it's even more so when you're pregnant. I bet you don't even use protection now that you're already pregnant, do you?

I'd seriously consider getting a STD check, to be on the safe side. And have a face to face TALK with him next time he pops round!

Figrollsnotfatrolls Sat 13-Jan-18 14:18:08

Seems to me you aren't the only one receiving his penis.

Bluntness100 Sat 13-Jan-18 14:18:24

It's sex. He's no intention of getting back with you. Or as others have said, the text was meant for someone else.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar Sat 13-Jan-18 14:27:49

Why would you continue having sex when you're pregnant and he's been clear he doesn't want to have a relationship with you?

Pengggwn Sat 13-Jan-18 14:29:57

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar Sat 13-Jan-18 14:35:33

Nothing per se, but she's pregnant with his baby and he's fucked off. Why would she have him back on a casual basis when he's been clear he feels no commitment (and judging by that text he has already moved in).

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar Sat 13-Jan-18 14:35:45

Moved on

Pengggwn Sat 13-Jan-18 14:36:33

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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