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AIBU?

To ask if he is single!

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inmyshoos · 07/01/2018 22:22

To ask for flirting advice!!! I have a crush on a delivery man who comes around every now and again. He is very flirty but it might just be his way. Quite cheeky chappy type. How can I ask if he is single without it being really awkward and embarrassing? I've been married for the past 15 years so I'm a bit rusty with this kind of stuff!
Am a bit worried he is just a cheeky flirty type and I embarrass him and myself!

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MiddleClassProblem · 07/01/2018 22:26

I dunno, do the old slip a wife/partner into conversation thing?

inmyshoos · 07/01/2018 22:28

Yeah I was thinking of saying 'ooo does your wife know you're a terrible flirt with all your customers?' That sound Ok?

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MiddleClassProblem · 07/01/2018 22:30

No, that sounds like you don’t like his flirting and would make him self conscious of it.

What kind of things does he say? Sorry it’s hard to imagine what the convo is. My delivery men leg it because the dog is barking at them through the window!

Flyingflipflop · 07/01/2018 22:32

Alternatively you could just leave someone to get on with their job in peace without getting hit upon.

MiddleClassProblem · 07/01/2018 22:33

Lol don’t put that in the thread about the cashier getting flowers!

Calvinlookingforhobbs · 07/01/2018 22:36

Ask him what his wife bought him for christmas, or comment on his socks/shoes/watch and say, ah did Mrs delivery get you that?

Calvinlookingforhobbs · 07/01/2018 22:37

Apologies, this is MN, did Mrs get you that

Cbaanymore123 · 07/01/2018 22:38

Today 22:32 Flyingflipflop

Alternatively you could just leave someone to get on with their job in peace without getting hit upon.

inmyshoos · 07/01/2018 22:41

flyingflipflop well I'm not about to wrestle him in and force myself on him fgs.
He flirts with me. I like him. I just want to know if he is single, if he is I will ask him out! What's the harm?
Example of the flirting...
Passes me the invoice but it's all folded up small in his pocket, so as I take it I ask 'What's this?'. He says 'What do you think it is? It's my phone number.
Also when I asked once if he could carry the delivery into porch he was 'oh I thought you women didn't need us men'...
Just all that kind of cheeky banter. Possibly not flirting! Maybe I'm just getting desperate It's been a long time....

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Straycatblue · 07/01/2018 22:45

I've been married for the past 15 years so I'm a bit rusty with this kind of stuff!

Are you still married and just wanting a bit of flirty banter or no longer married ? Not clear from above ^

frasier · 07/01/2018 22:48

Do you know his name? Look him up on Facebook.

SundaySalon · 07/01/2018 22:49

The phone number thing is flirting, some people are just very friendly and give banter though. Maybe start an actual conversation, I am sure his relationship status would be easy to find out without direct question. You could casually drop in something about DC, if you have children maybe but have a lighthearted moan about them and then ask if he has any, might steer the conversation that way. Presumably he doesn’t wear a ring?

inmyshoos · 07/01/2018 22:49

Are you still married and just wanting a bit of flirty banter or no longer married ? Not clear from above ^

No I am single! Separated over a year ago.

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MiddleClassProblem · 07/01/2018 22:50

The phone number bit is very flirty. The feminism chat just sounds like banter.

Like Calvinlookingforhobbs said, maybe say, “nice watch, did your wife get you that for Christmas?”

Although he could reply with “nah? I’ve had this for years” or something that leaves you none the wiser.

Obviously he also needs to be wearing a watch.

rightknockered · 07/01/2018 22:50

Haha, do NOT look him up on FB!

inmyshoos · 07/01/2018 22:55

He wears gloves so can't see if he has a ring!
Did think about the dc route but he could easily have dc and be single I suppose.
Not 100% sure what his name is. There was a name on the invoice but no joy when I tried fb (stalking!)
I speak to the depot whenever I am due a delivery and did wonder if I should ask the woman in the office if he is single or is that a silly teenagery thing to do?!

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Eliza9917 · 07/01/2018 22:58

You need the bend and snap

PurpleSpaceyTwinkles · 07/01/2018 22:58

Try the 'Bend and Snap'?

PurpleSpaceyTwinkles · 07/01/2018 22:58

Cross post!

Eliza9917 · 07/01/2018 22:59

first thing I thought of when I read the op!

Darkstar4855 · 07/01/2018 22:59

I dunno, hitting on people when they’re at work always seems a bit wrong to me on the basis that if it makes them feel uncomfortable they won’t be able to avoid you in the future.

It’s happened to me a few times over the years and always makes me feel very uncomfortable and vulnerable.

PurpleSpaceyTwinkles · 07/01/2018 22:59

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Cbaanymore123 · 07/01/2018 23:04

Ha ha ha at bend and snap.

NeandathalWoman · 07/01/2018 23:06

Oooh love it! I quite like my delivery man, he's not attractive in a conventional type but very friendly and he sees me more regularly then some friends! Haha

Please, please give it a try and then update the thread. I can live vicariously through you!

If he is single and this does lead somewhere... can we all come up with some good one-liners relating to delivering packages that she can spin? hehe

inmyshoos · 07/01/2018 23:08

What is bend and snap???? I'm frightened to Google

darkstar he is definitely the instigator of the flirty chat. I don't think it would be awkward, in 2 months I've only seen him twice! I would hope to ask in a way that would avoid any awkwardness!!!

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