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inmyshoos Sun 07-Jan-18 22:22:05

To ask for flirting advice!!! I have a crush on a delivery man who comes around every now and again. He is very flirty but it might just be his way. Quite cheeky chappy type. How can I ask if he is single without it being really awkward and embarrassing? I've been married for the past 15 years so I'm a bit rusty with this kind of stuff!
Am a bit worried he is just a cheeky flirty type and I embarrass him and myself! blush

MiddleClassProblem Sun 07-Jan-18 22:26:29

I dunno, do the old slip a wife/partner into conversation thing?

inmyshoos Sun 07-Jan-18 22:28:15

Yeah I was thinking of saying 'ooo does your wife know you're a terrible flirt with all your customers?' That sound Ok?

MiddleClassProblem Sun 07-Jan-18 22:30:53

No, that sounds like you don’t like his flirting and would make him self conscious of it.

What kind of things does he say? Sorry it’s hard to imagine what the convo is. My delivery men leg it because the dog is barking at them through the window!

Flyingflipflop Sun 07-Jan-18 22:32:32

Alternatively you could just leave someone to get on with their job in peace without getting hit upon.

MiddleClassProblem Sun 07-Jan-18 22:33:24

Lol don’t put that in the thread about the cashier getting flowers!

Calvinlookingforhobbs Sun 07-Jan-18 22:36:23

Ask him what his wife bought him for christmas, or comment on his socks/shoes/watch and say, ah did Mrs delivery get you that?

Calvinlookingforhobbs Sun 07-Jan-18 22:37:10

Apologies, this is MN, did Mrs <kept her own name> get you that

Cbaanymore123 Sun 07-Jan-18 22:38:45

*Today 22:32 Flyingflipflop

Alternatively you could just leave someone to get on with their job in peace without getting hit upon.*

<<< paranoids gf of a delivery driver lol

inmyshoos Sun 07-Jan-18 22:41:17

flyingflipflop well I'm not about to wrestle him in and force myself on him fgs.
He flirts with me. I like him. I just want to know if he is single, if he is I will ask him out! What's the harm?
Example of the flirting...
Passes me the invoice but it's all folded up small in his pocket, so as I take it I ask 'What's this?'. He says 'What do you think it is? It's my phone number.
Also when I asked once if he could carry the delivery into porch he was 'oh I thought you women didn't need us men'...
Just all that kind of cheeky banter. Possibly not flirting! Maybe I'm just getting desperate confused It's been a long time....

Straycatblue Sun 07-Jan-18 22:45:35

I've been married for the past 15 years so I'm a bit rusty with this kind of stuff!

Are you still married and just wanting a bit of flirty banter or no longer married ? Not clear from above ^

frasier Sun 07-Jan-18 22:48:22

Do you know his name? Look him up on Facebook.

SundaySalon Sun 07-Jan-18 22:49:24

The phone number thing is flirting, some people are just very friendly and give banter though. Maybe start an actual conversation, I am sure his relationship status would be easy to find out without direct question. You could casually drop in something about DC, if you have children maybe but have a lighthearted moan about them and then ask if he has any, might steer the conversation that way. Presumably he doesn’t wear a ring?

inmyshoos Sun 07-Jan-18 22:49:50

Are you still married and just wanting a bit of flirty banter or no longer married ? Not clear from above ^

No I am single! Separated over a year ago.

MiddleClassProblem Sun 07-Jan-18 22:50:10

The phone number bit is very flirty. The feminism chat just sounds like banter.

Like Calvinlookingforhobbs said, maybe say, “nice watch, did your wife get you that for Christmas?”

Although he could reply with “nah? I’ve had this for years” or something that leaves you none the wiser.

Obviously he also needs to be wearing a watch.

rightknockered Sun 07-Jan-18 22:50:21

Haha, do NOT look him up on FB!

inmyshoos Sun 07-Jan-18 22:55:27

He wears gloves so can't see if he has a ring!
Did think about the dc route but he could easily have dc and be single I suppose.
Not 100% sure what his name is. There was a name on the invoice but no joy when I tried fb (stalking!)
I speak to the depot whenever I am due a delivery and did wonder if I should ask the woman in the office if he is single or is that a silly teenagery thing to do?!

Eliza9917 Sun 07-Jan-18 22:58:00

You need the bend and snap

PurpleSpaceyTwinkles Sun 07-Jan-18 22:58:00

Try the 'Bend and Snap'?

PurpleSpaceyTwinkles Sun 07-Jan-18 22:58:12

Cross post!

Eliza9917 Sun 07-Jan-18 22:59:15

grin first thing I thought of when I read the op!

Darkstar4855 Sun 07-Jan-18 22:59:21

I dunno, hitting on people when they’re at work always seems a bit wrong to me on the basis that if it makes them feel uncomfortable they won’t be able to avoid you in the future.

It’s happened to me a few times over the years and always makes me feel very uncomfortable and vulnerable.

PurpleSpaceyTwinkles Sun 07-Jan-18 22:59:35

grin

Cbaanymore123 Sun 07-Jan-18 23:04:18

Ha ha ha at bend and snap.

NeandathalWoman Sun 07-Jan-18 23:06:29

Oooh love it! I quite like my delivery man, he's not attractive in a conventional type but very friendly and he sees me more regularly then some friends! Haha

Please, please give it a try and then update the thread. I can live vicariously through you!

If he is single and this does lead somewhere... can we all come up with some good one-liners relating to delivering packages that she can spin? hehe

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