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YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan Fri 29-Dec-17 07:55:50

Planning this has been a horrible experience. I'm a single parent with a single salary coming in and I just can't afford to spend a fortune on it.

There was already a row as people wanted to spend £75+ per child on the party with suggestions of a formal evening do at a local castle and hiring a funfair etc. The people wanting to spend more are all couples with dual salary coming in and have said they can afford this so this is what they want to spend.

Several people including me said it was a ridiculous amount to spend and pushed for £25 max and offered cheap alternatives. We can have a local hall for free and do the usual party games and disco with pizzas and snacky food from a takeaway nearby. This wasn't special enough and too boring for their children. Or we could go to a local trampoline/bowling etc venue with one activity and the usual burger and chips type meal. The people who wanted to spend more slated this idea as their children go to local trampoline/bowling places regularly so it's not special or different enough for their children.

It was left that the various options would be explored and a final plan drawn up around the £25 a head mark. I was called pathetic and accused of spoiling things by those who can afford it as apparently I'm not willing to compromise. Not quite sure how I can compromise when personal finances mean I just can't justify spending £75+ on a children's party.

My job is seasonal and goes seriously mental in December. I've put long hours in at work so I've not been on Facebook much and hadn't noticed posts in the group. It wasn't until I noticed a demand for money yesterday that I realised the final plans have been drawn up.

A themed bus has been booked which is different and more expensive to the one that was originally suggested. This will take them to a venue an hours drive away where they can choose a leisure activitie and have some food. The people who can't afford to spend more will then leave while the children who can afford it will stay and do further activities. The cost is £35 a head.

AIBU in feeling annoyed by this? It's going to cost me more than I agreed to pay, I don't see the point in travelling all that way just to do trampolining or bowling when they can do that within a few miles of home and I'm really really narked by the two tier system with an extended party for those who can afford to pay more.

Bobbybobbins Fri 29-Dec-17 18:11:26

Wow our year 13 leavers prom is only £40 a head and that involves a 3 course meal! That is a vast amount of money that these parents are considering spending!

BakedBeans47 Fri 29-Dec-17 18:11:36

YANBU

our primary school leavers dance is paid for by the PTA, held in the school hall, and doesn’t cost a penny. There’s a band, photo booth, food and drink, cakes and it is all free. All the parents need to buy is something for their child to wear.

teaandakitkat Fri 29-Dec-17 18:25:03

YANBU
I would reply to the facebook group saying how disappointed you are that some children will be unable to attend the whole event because of the cost. I'm certain other parents will agree and hopefully some others will comment backing you up. I know I would. And maybe if people actually point out the unfairness they might think again.
Suggest the event just ends after the first activity and food. Is there somewhere they could go on to, a room in the school maybe, just for drinks and crisps and a movie if they feel it isn't long enough?
You don't want to criticise then not have an alternative suggestion, that will just piss people off.
As for the cost, they wanted £75, you wanted £25, it's ended up at £35 (sort of). You probably can't argue with that. At least you've got plenty notice to save up.

TSSDNCOP Fri 29-Dec-17 18:45:18

I see this coming. In fact, it’s already started. I’ve withdrawn completely. It’s so grabby and tasteless.

flowery Fri 29-Dec-17 18:53:49

This is completely not on my radar at all, and DS1 is in year 6.

It is still December isn’t it? As in, seven months before they leave?

Toomanycats99 Fri 29-Dec-17 20:16:08

@flowery - the hall for ours was booked in September! Although to be fair we haven't done anything else yet!

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