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Mmmmmmmchips Mon 18-Dec-17 16:40:07

Went for school pickup
A mum whose DC my DC plays with cane to talk to me.
Amongst the general chit chat I asked her how her Xmas planning was going.
I then told her I’ve done most if not all my shopping.
She then asked why do I buy presents and celebrate Xmas if I’m not Christian.
I am in fact Indian but not any religion.
She asked me again do I celebrate it and what’s the point.
It made me feel awkward but mumbled something.
So was she thinking what someone else would be thinking and just said it out aloud or did she have a point.
For the record I don’t think they are regular churchgoers if at allconfused

RestingGrinchFace Mon 18-Dec-17 16:43:39

'Because it's a secular holiday these days' or 'I still think Jesus is pretty great' would both have been appropriate responses. She was just being a bit of a twat and trying to make you uncomfortable on purpose.

Notevilstepmother Mon 18-Dec-17 16:44:59

Some people just say what flits through their mind without engaging their brain.

I guess a lot of people would see someone Indian and assume that they are Hindu for example.

I think it wasn’t very polite of her, but she probably was ignorant rather than nasty, and maybe she was just curious.

Sorry it made you feel uncomfortable flowers.

Notevilstepmother Mon 18-Dec-17 16:46:30

Maybe I’m being too kind.

Anyway, she was ignorant, please ignore her.

Ansumpasty Mon 18-Dec-17 16:47:00

It was a pretty ignorant thing for her to say.

Notevilstepmother Mon 18-Dec-17 16:48:38

I don’t think she has a point or that she’s thinking what other people are thinking. I’d be thinking that it’s probably time I got more organised, I’m nowhere near ready.

TrojansAreSmegheads Mon 18-Dec-17 16:50:53

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Bizzysocks Mon 18-Dec-17 16:52:49

She was rude.
''I believe in father Christmas ' would have shut her up

Trills Mon 18-Dec-17 16:53:02

She was being an idiot.

It's highly likely that more people who celebrate Christmas in the UK are not-Christian than are Christian.

[ Half of the UK have no religion]]

Trills Mon 18-Dec-17 16:53:19

Fixed link hopefully

ZigZagIntoTheBlue Mon 18-Dec-17 16:53:50

It's not reserved for religious folk? I'm not any religion and I celebrate Christmas as a time to get together with family. In my mind it's nothing to do with a made up birthday!

Allthewaves Mon 18-Dec-17 16:55:02

Ok to ask if u celebrate but rude to ask why.

gamerwidow Mon 18-Dec-17 17:01:18

Petty and ignorant what’s it got to do with her if you choose to celebrate Christmas or not. It’s as much a cultural celebration as a religious one in this country. I’m an atheist but I still do Christmas because it’s part of the traditions I grew up with.

MadMags Mon 18-Dec-17 17:03:12

Wow, I would have just assumed she was curious! Do you have any reason to suspect she was being prejudiced?

Ceto Mon 18-Dec-17 17:06:16

Silly woman. You could reasonably point out that the origin of Christmas is pagan and predates Christ.

Trills Mon 18-Dec-17 17:06:26

Do you have any reason to suspect she was being prejudiced?

Yes, the words she spoke as reported in the OP.

MadMags Mon 18-Dec-17 17:08:41

Trills are you OP?

Notreallyarsed Mon 18-Dec-17 17:10:16

It is pretty ignorant, unless she regularly asks her white non-Christian friends why they bother with Christmas!

Trills Mon 18-Dec-17 17:11:21


But I can read the OP and I don't think we need anything more than that to suspect that this woman was being prejudiced.

Knittedfairies Mon 18-Dec-17 17:12:51

There are Indians who are Christians/Christians who are Indian.. Ignorant woman

MadMags Mon 18-Dec-17 17:13:30

Oh, well done. You can read.

You don’t know this woman. OP does. It’s possible that she’s ignorant and clumsy, but not maliciously so. Which is why I asked OP the question. Since she’s actually met and spoken to this woman. hmm

KimmySchmidt1 Mon 18-Dec-17 17:14:57

she was being unimaginative at best, argumentative at worst.

Was she saying it because she hates Christmas and thinks its a pain in the arse, or in a way that suggested she thought she owned the holiday because she was white?

Honestly you can't please some people!

WhoWants2Know Mon 18-Dec-17 17:16:01

Did she know for a fact that you aren’t Christian, or did she assume that because of the way you look?

I’d possibly told her that I celebrate Santa Claus and worship the Coca Cola company.

Trills Mon 18-Dec-17 17:17:44

Asking "do you have reason to suspect?" is suggesting that what was said is not enough in itself to suspect prejudice. Suggesting that the OP is jumping to conclusions or being overly sensitive. She is not.

Situp Mon 18-Dec-17 17:18:30

She shouldnt have assumed OP wasn't Christian because she is Indian. There are 27 million christians in India.

Would she have asked a white British person the same question, which is just as valid when over 50% of the population now claim to have no religion? I doubt it.

Half the people she knows will be celebrating Christmas when they 're not religious. Making assumptions and comments which seem to be based on OP's ethnicity is out of order.


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