Ok so bit of background..my son is 6 months old now and a few days after he was born we discovered that he had quite a rare congenital defect that wasn't detected on any scans etc. He was operated on and although the surgery was successful this doesn't mean that he is fixed. There is a risk of complications for the rest of his life which if they happen are a medical emergency as his condition can be life threatening.
He spent the first 2 months of his life in and out of hospital which was awful for us as a family but since then so far so good. I have been quite traumatised by all of this, very teary at times, worrying etc as it's taking a while to sink in. Everyone else seems to have moved on though and I get the impression that they expect me to aswel.
Up until now my son hasn't been cared for by anyone other than me and dh as I haven't wanted him to go anywhere but because of this we have always made sure that we visit family regularly, have them round our house every week so that they still see plenty of him etc.
Up until now no one has said anything but this weekend my pil made a passive aggressive comment about going somewhere and saying it was full of nans with their grandkids. It was so random how it was said and nothing to do with what we were talking about at the time. Now it might be me taking it the wrong way but I got the impression that they were trying to make a point.
They have never asked about taking him anywhere and I also have another child that would of loved to have gone with them but they haven't asked about him either. I don't particularly want the baby going off for the day yet for the first time and we have arranged for them to have him over Christmas for a few hours to get him (and me) used to him being with other people. My mil has previously said that in my position with what has happened she would be the same but I'm starting to doubt it now.
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lunatune · 18/12/2017 13:16
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