I suppose it's because it's Christmas and there was an incident the other day, which has got me dwelling again.
There's a huge backstory so I'll try and be brief.
About 3 years ago I found out that my lovely daughter had been abused by my father. There had been a few incidents and obviously terrible but she was brave enough to speak out.
I thought little of my father and my mother to a certain extent before this.
My father was dishonest about other things and my mother just forgave him and was needy and controlling.
My mother was furious that my daughter had spoken out and I received one call from her saying she hated her.
My brother stuck with my parents as he was broke and needed somewhere to live and relies on them even though he is 40.
We waited a very long time for it to get to court and my beautiful brave daughter stood up and told what had happened and he was found guilty and went to prison.
My exH, both my DC father was supportive at the beginning and went to court etc and spent some time with us.
He used to say that his mother/current wife/brother were all worried sick but I never heard from them or got any calls.
Eventually, we moved (not far) and both my DC are working, my daughter is at college and my son has his own place.
The time me and my exH spent together looking after DD seemed to trigger some jealousy in my ExH wife and I received some vile fb messages from her which just reeked of insecurity to me. I was shocked but blocked her and said no more about it.
I thought my ExH should have been furious with her as we'd obviously been through a really shit time and the little amount of time he supported us certainly wasn't a fun time.
Not heard from any of my ExH family. They don't even send birthday cards etc. They say that my DC should have visited them but we were absolutely on our knees. We didn't visit anyone for months.
My ExH seems to have the DC on trial all the time. They don't do enough apparently. He doesn't understand teenagers at all. He thinks that they should formally visit him once a week I think but they work, both in retail so you can imagine how busy they are. Some days my daughter leaves the house at 8am and doesn't get home until 10pm.
ExH has totally lost touch with their lives. I don't think he even knows my son has his own place.
The other day my ExH brother blanked my son twice in one day! I presume this is out of loyalty to his DB but surely he can see his DB's behaviour is wrong?
He could keep in touch with my DC independently.
We've got my sister and her family and she's got two lovely DC around the same age as mine. I love them all (and my BIL) but the rest of the family are shitter than shit.
Extended family, I've never heard from any of them since the incident with my father.
Not one single message!
AIBU to think my DC have been taught that they really can not rely on anyone much? I'm surprised they are not completely bitter and angry all the time.
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HoarseMackerel · 17/12/2017 10:33
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