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Aibu about taking home leftovers?

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WhyamIBoredathome Sat 16-Dec-17 18:21:20

Ok, so as not to influence I won't say who I am.
Family member A invites member B and their family over for lunch.
Both families are made up of two adults and two children.
Person A does all the shopping and cooking for main course and nibbles.
Person B offers to bring dessert and spends time and effort making a Nigella cake recipe to bring.
Both families have a nice time and enjoy all the food. About a quarter of the cake is leftover.
On leaving Person B picks up the leftover cake to take it home. Person A's husband expresses surprise that they aren't leaving it behind. Person B takes cake as they cooked it so felt this is fair.

Who is being unreasonable?
Is person B right to take cake as they put time and effort into baking?
Or is person A right expecting cake to be left as they bought and cooked main course (everything got eaten) and hosted.

Splinterz Sat 16-Dec-17 18:23:43

I think it depends on family dynamic but I would say B has no social graces. You do not take a present then take it home again - unless the offer is made to take it home again

Elmleaisnotcream Sat 16-Dec-17 18:23:49

Person A

Elmleaisnotcream Sat 16-Dec-17 18:24:12

Sorry person b is unreasonable

lookingforthecorkscrew Sat 16-Dec-17 18:24:36

You made that cake, didn’t you?

SpartonDregs Sat 16-Dec-17 18:24:56

Half and half, leave half the cake and take the higher half.

RestingGrinchFace Sat 16-Dec-17 18:25:18

Person B has no manners.

WillowWept Sat 16-Dec-17 18:25:53

Person B is so unbelievably unreasonable. And odd.

Atalune Sat 16-Dec-17 18:26:24

Person B is déclassé

jarhead123 Sat 16-Dec-17 18:26:35

B is unreasonable.

ScreamingValenta Sat 16-Dec-17 18:27:43

Person B should have asked before taking it. Person A's husband should probably have been gracious and said nothing, but the error lies with Person B.

RhiWrites Sat 16-Dec-17 18:28:01

The dinner the cake was for us over do the leftovers are fair game. Most people I know would split it though.

PinkHeart5914 Sat 16-Dec-17 18:28:13

I can’t believe they took the cake home with them! So rude. B is of course unreasonable

defineme Sat 16-Dec-17 18:28:17

B has no social graces, but if person a had a nice time they should just laugh about it.

Iloveacurry Sat 16-Dec-17 18:28:30

Person B should of left the cake.

Blackteadrinker77 Sat 16-Dec-17 18:28:32

Person B is in the wrong. It's like taking a bottle of wine and trying to take the left overs home.

Saying that though I'm always person A and I always send people home with extras for their lunch etc the day.

werewolfhowls Sat 16-Dec-17 18:28:32

You have cake leftovers? You need to change recipe

Elmleaisnotcream Sat 16-Dec-17 18:28:39

I agree OP is person B, OP is written with a slight bias to person B.

WoodenRainbow Sat 16-Dec-17 18:28:59

Anything you take to another persons house should be left behind. Or split 50/50. Unless the host is insistent you take it away with you (which I have done before when on a diet and didn’t want the temptation of half a cake lying around)

olympicsrock Sat 16-Dec-17 18:29:05

Person B is being unreasonable. It’s about manners not cost spent. You don’t take home leftovers from food or drink that you brought. That’s ill-mannered

crisscrosscranky Sat 16-Dec-17 18:29:19

Person B

KeepServingTheDrinks Sat 16-Dec-17 18:30:01

You're A aren't you? I also think person B was rude, and should have at least offered to split it.

blueskyinmarch Sat 16-Dec-17 18:30:11

Person B is BU. You leave the cake for the people hosting to enjoy.

AndersArms Sat 16-Dec-17 18:30:16

Person B should have left the cake.

pallisers Sat 16-Dec-17 18:30:33

If B brought a bottle of wine and only half was drunk, would they have taken that back too?

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