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I was going to say yanbu until it got to the fact that your Dp would need to use a weeks holiday to allow it to happen which I do think is unfair.

Can you not save and all go together to Canada?

Should add this would be middle of 2018 and dd would be around 2.5 yo.

I don’t think it’s unfair, if; he’s afforded the same opportunity, and he’s got a decent amount of annual leave.
My DH and I really try to encourage each other to still do some stuff we enjoy on our own, for example I went skiing on a work trip and he went away with friends to Berlin.

I know that is the bit where I'm a little :-S too. But having said that we don't go anywhere or do anything and he tends to use his holiday time for random 'me time'. It would take YEARS to save that amount and the whole idea is for me and bestie to spend some quality time without having dd in tow - I know that sounds mean but it's supposed to be an 'escape' from parenting for a bit.

Personally I'd jump at the chance! He's given annual leave for a reason. He can use it how he wants. This will be a fab opportunity for you, but for your DH and DD. Some proper daddy daughter time.

Why would it be unreasonable?

Sounds fair enough to me.

Sounds ok to me. You also are entitled to a break. And perhaps he could work part time or less hours that week.

Yes, go. Why on earth wouldn't you? I have been having much more than just one week a year in my home country since my children were tiny.

Go if your dd will be ok, or take her too

Could your husband negotiate with work that he’d do reduced hours that week, so he wouldn’t have to take a full week of leave but could fit with the childminder’s hours and do the days when she isn’t available? Would be nice bonding time for them if you think she’d be ok without you! A week of uninterrupted Canadian catching up sounds like bless.

Another vote here for starting later or doing half days, though I suppose that depends what does!

Do it. Go. Book it right now.

Your DD will be with her father fgs - she'll be completely fine. I'm guessing that you are required to fit your work around childcare in the usual scheme of things so he can do the same for one week.

Forget any suggestion of taking your baby or saving up until you can all go. This is a chance for you to spend time with your best friend, just the two of you - not being a mummy, not being a wife, just you.

I´d definitely go. If you do a lot of the childcare, it will be good for him and your daughter to spend some time alone. Also good for you to spend some time just being you instead of being mummy.

You should definitely go, and enjoy yourself.

Honestly, if I was your dh, I would be more than a little dubious about your male friend paying for your jaunt. Friendship is one thing, but this seems to be crossing the line.

Many full time working single parents juggle work and childcare so can’t see why your husband can’t, go! Sounds an amazing opportunity.

Sorry - I think the 'he' in question is your dh . That'll teach me to read more carefully.

The friend is paying for the flights. Sorry to hear this idea is so scandalous , Matilda. A woman can have male friends who don't pose a sexual threat to her partner. Why are you making this sound dodgy? That's not what OP is asking about.

No matilda you read right, bestie is a man. We've known each other since we were 15 so 18 years of friendship.

I would go. Dp would deal with it. 1 week in 2.5 years is nu

Working reduced hours wouldn't be possible for him unfortunately due to the nature of his work and staffing levels so he would have to take full days off. It would have been a great comprise but sadly not an option