To have forgotten...

[gentlydoesit89]

.. to get my son’s father a school photo?
I’m feeling really guilty!

We don’t speak really, he sees our son once a fortnight and only speaks to him during the week if I call him for DS. We had an awful relationship, he cheated and was abusive so the less I have to do with him the better.

On school photo day I was working late, got home and was shown photo list. Picked the best of 2 photos and ordered a handful of small pictures, a couple of key rings and a big photo for his grandparents. Didn’t give his dad a second thought, I admit that.

Gave his dad a key ring this evening and he’s flipped his lid, swearing at me and telling me I’ve really upset him. I know I’ve majorly dropped the ball and do feel bad about it but part of me is frustrated that this is the man who’s never done a school run, attended a school play, doesn’t really bother unless I report any going’s on, yet is quite happy to tell me I’ve excluded him from these pictures.

AIBU to be upset by this? I’ve forgotten one thing and am being made to feel horrible.

[QueenNovo]

Give him the photographer's details and let him order his own.

[Tinselistacky]

Have him sign up for school emails then he will know when such things are happening and can order for himself - I am sure you are busy with your ds to remember everything concerning your ex. That's perfectly acceptable!!

[WidoWanky]

If he gets the reference, he can order his own.

Ignore the twat.

[CountTessa]

Most schools have reference details. He can sign up and get other photos if he wants them. I suspect he just wants to make you feel like shit.

[JAMMFYesPlease]

Sounds like he wants to make you feel like crap. Don't give him a second thought. If we really that upset he can step up in the future.

[Dinosaursdontgrowontrees]

Just scan the photo you have and print one out?

[MrsTerryPratchett]

If he behaves like that, I wouldn't bother with the key ring in future.

His behaviour is meant to make you do things for him. If it works, he will get worse. So don't do things for him based on his poor behaviour.

[Huskylover1]

I know I’ve majorly dropped the ball

No. You really, really haven't.

And even if you had, you are the only one here that's keeping the ball up in the air. Because he just swans in, when he feels like it.

Cheeky fucking twat. What a bloody cheek.

Send him a link to the school website.

Stop letting him make you feel bad.

If your son dropped off the planet tomorrow, it's be another 13 days before he realised. When do you have 13 days off from childcare?

I hope to goodness he's paying the right child support!

[maddiemookins16mum]

Was abusive, he STILL is.

[BewareOfDragons]

You haven't done anything wrong.

He can ask the school for the photo codes. Or you can kindly email the details to him. He can order what he likes and spend his own money if he wants school photos .

[Stoptherideiwannagetoff]

He is an unreasonable twat!

[WhooooAmI24601]

You haven't dropped the ball at all. He's a functioning adult who can easily phone the school or the photographer and order his own photos. It's not your responsibility to offer him stuff like that.