So a friend/acquaintance I've met through school has started a blog. We're friends on fb so I see the posts that way.
I can't decide whether or not it would be helpful to be a bit honest with her about it.
Thing is, I don't really like reading it.
What shines through is that she is so down on herself and not at peace with who she is. It's quite negative. The harshness with which she judges herself makes me feel she must be judging me and reading it is not good for my confidence.
She also has a skewed view of things - eg. She talks about how she's sure the mums at school must think she's the gran picking up (not true st all) and says she looks around at all the 20 and 30 something mums at the school gate who are naturally beautiful, slim & fit. Now we're at the same school gate and I don't know any mums in their 20s! I am very far from slim. A good few of the other mums are in their early to mid 40s like this person and I think she looks great - id love her figure.
It's sort of annoying and sad at the same time as I think she really does believe this stuff which is factually incorrect! It's like she thinks she's got/had it worse than anyone else and I think that's probably a barrier to friendships developing.
Another example was talking about baby groups and how they breathed a sigh of relief when she and her daughter left because her daughter cried. I wasn't there but I'm sure they weren't thinking that!
She also describes her family as 'poor' which grates a little because I don't know their whole situation but I'm quite sure there's many many people worse off.
Anyway. We haven't known each other that long and she is shy (mentioned a lot in her blog that she struggles socially).
Would it be helpful for me to (kindly as possible) comment that she is down on herself/challenge some of the way she's seeing things? Or just leave it and stop reading?
It's frustrating because I think she could potentially be a lot happier if she reframed some of the things she thinks about herself and her circumstances.
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How honest to be with friend about her new blog?
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chandlersfraud · 14/12/2017 20:20
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