AIBU to buy a gift when the invite says "No presents"?

[ElenaBothari]

I've been invited to a birthday party for a 3 year old that says "No presents" on the invite.

I know they live in a small flat, so worry about storage space and clutter. I thought I could take the kind of gift that gets up, like paint or craft supplies.

Just feels so rude to turn up with nothing, but then maybe it's ruder to ignore their wishes....

[ElenaBothari]

Gets USED up, that should say.

[FluffyMcCloud]

If it says no presents, don't take a present.

[RoganJosh]

I’d go gift voucher or cash.

[RaindropsAndSparkles]

Respect the request.

[Bambamber]

I would be rather annoyed if I specified no presents and someone turned up with a present. Especially knowing they live in a small flat. If you're that bothered take a card and pop a gift card inside

[Bobbins43]

If they've said no presents, don't take presents.

[LostInShoebiz]

Vouchers or cash if you absolutely must but no physical gifts if they've said no and have limited space.

[ElenaBothari]

Don't know why a voucher didn't occur to me, that's genius!

Thanks all, I will go with a voucher in a card.

[FadedRed]

I would put some money in a card.

[crumbsinthecutlerydrawer]

I think vouchers are just as bad as taking a present when you’ve been asked not too. Personally, I hate vouchers because you’re committed to spending money in a particular shop and for a 3yo old it’ll either be clothes/toy shops and they obviously don’t want any of those things.

If you really can’t not give anything a book token or money that they can do with as they wish might be ok.

[pawsies]

Restaurant voucher?

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

Money is a present though so is a voucher...people that put this are angling for money I would take fuck all.

[ElenaBothari]

So maybe just stick a tenner in a card, with a note saying hope they can use it to do something fun?

It's a party at a soft play, with lunch and they've already mentioned goody bags and I just feel like they're spending a lot and it's so rude to give them nothing.....

But a tenner can't be rude surely, even if they don't want presents?

[ElenaBothari]

I don't think thy are angling for money as there's just a blunt "No presents." on a line on its own, none of that twee poetry or "no boxed gifts" that usually let you know people want cash.

[Bitchywaitress]

'No presents' ON an actual invitation is really quite rude OP.

[Chaosofcalm]

I would not give a gift as they clearly don’t want them, could be issue if space or just not wanting their child to have too much stuff.

If you want to give something five then some money for their piggy bank is savings.

[Aridane]

people that put this are angling for money

Really? I would just be taking this at face value

[danTDM]

They've asked for no presents, they don't want presents. Yes, YABU to them and other guests.

I've said no presents before, I meant it. I had my reasons.

[crumbsinthecutlerydrawer]

Forget what I said before, just take a card. If they are angling for money, they’ve not done it right and they’ll have learned a lesson for next year.

[danTDM]

I really don't think they're hinting for money.

They just want... no presents

[TinyTear]

i am going to a party for a 3yo this saturday that says "no presents" but they are asking for donations instead to a charity close to their heart/family so I donated instead...

[kaytee87]

I wouldn't take a present if they've specifically said not to (this includes cash and vouchers imo). If just ensure I returned the invitation and set a play date or something.