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AIBU?

Food shamed!

64 replies

bigupapple · 14/12/2017 07:49

I feel like I’m getting food shamed for eating!
I work 11 hour shifts with a an hour commute each, earlys and lates and nights,
I’m at work more than at home, so excuse me if I eat here!
It’s only one person , seems to hone in on me anytime I’ve got a banana or a sandwich, ooh eating again r we? Hungry already! leave me alone! Is 6 am I’ve been up since 4, I’m 5 months pregnant god for bid I have breakfast?

When does she eat? Everyone eats here, I’m talking a pot of porridge , home made lunch, not a 3 course meal!
She’s really starting to piss me off, she’s not saying it in a funny nice way, normally with a roll of the eyes!
Aibu to tell her to sod off!

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 14/12/2017 08:24

YANBU. Cheeky bitch.
I can't abide comment passers.
If you've got nothing constructive to fucking shut up and bore off.
Im a hungry Horace. I'll hold my hands up.
I'll eat anything. Her included if she said anything to meGrin

PringlesPirate · 14/12/2017 08:29

People do this to me at my work all the time as well.

Offer her a bit. I started to do that and the comments stopped.

MoistCantaloupe · 14/12/2017 08:32

These people are the worst people possible OP. They obviously have their own weird food issues that they have to pass comment. I’d ask ‘why do you like to imply I’m greedy all the time? It’s not very nice’ then report back.

user1493413286 · 14/12/2017 08:36

I’d make some kind of comment back like ‘yes do you have a problem with that’ to stop her in her tracks a bit. I hate people commenting on me eating. I used to work with someone who commented on how little I ate (it was a normal amount) and it made me not want to eat near her.

CommanderDaisy · 14/12/2017 08:37

Tell her that it's actually in her interest that you eat regularly, because you'd be a bitch on wheels if you didn't.

Moanyoldcow · 14/12/2017 08:39

Ask her if she needs a hobby or more work to do as she's obviously got a load of time in her hands if this is what she's worrying about.

Ceto · 14/12/2017 08:49

Is she annoyed that you have breakfast during working hours rather than before you leave for work?

Blackteadrinker77 · 14/12/2017 08:51

Some people just aren't nice.

Tell her you would prefer it if she didn't speak to you.

LazyDailyMailJournos · 14/12/2017 08:52

Next time she does this, stop and very politely ask her the following:

Do you have an issue with me eating ? I'm asking because you make a comment about it every single time and it's getting quite tiring. If there's a problem then tell me about it, otherwise I'd appreciate it if you'd stop.

bigupapple · 14/12/2017 08:52

This morning when she (caught) me eating a porridge pot! She said hungry already, I said yeh that kind of happens in the morning! And she went 🙄hmm

I normally start to explain we'll I've been up since 4 bla bla , but I can't be bothered anymore, why do you have to explain eating I thought it was sort of the norm !

Maybe if I was eating 10 donuts by 6 am, butvwhat would that even have to do with the food police! X. She's annoying x glad you think I'm not being crazy about it !

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MiltonTheCockroach · 14/12/2017 08:53

Is she annoyed that you have breakfast during working hours rather than before you leave for work?

That's what occurred to me too.

There's someone at my work who arrives early, spends time preparing her porridge and cup of tea then sits at her desk eating it. Whilst she's technically 'at work' she isn't actually doing any work for about half an hour while she makes her food and eats it.

Frederickvonhefferneffer · 14/12/2017 08:55

Next time she says it, turn around really slowly, exhaling loudly, roll your eyes spectacularly, then look her straight in the eye and say “honestly, can you just leave me alone to eat, your constant comments are pissing me off”

bigupapple · 14/12/2017 08:56

I eat it before works starts and then on my breaks / lunch break, so not whilst I'm working, I'll be in the crew room on a break and she will walk in and look at me and then comment!

Oh god here she comes!! Nothing but my phone in hand so unless she thinks I'm going to eat this I shud be safe!

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Frederickvonhefferneffer · 14/12/2017 08:58

Or you could reply “yes, bitching about it again are we?”

bigupapple · 14/12/2017 08:59

Yes Fredrick! Think I'll go with that direct approach lol x

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TatianaLarina · 14/12/2017 09:01

I’d ask if she has an eating disorder as she seems quite preoccupied with food.

Mylady · 14/12/2017 09:01

Head tilt - I'm very concerned you keep mentioning my food all the time - i know you may not want to share but if you have good issues there's lots of help thease days '

FrankensteinsSister · 14/12/2017 09:04

Next time bring a banana for her! That’ll make her scarce in future.

SpartonDregs · 14/12/2017 09:04

Yes Fredrick! Think I'll go with that direct approach lol x

I wouldn't - she is possibly the type to go crying to management that you are being mean.

'Eating again I see?'
No response. Look at watch, take out notebook/diary, open and note date, time, what was said and anyone who might have heard. If she asks what you are doing say 'I have been advised to record every instance of your comments to me about food as it could constitute bullying'. And say no more.

RedForFilth · 14/12/2017 09:05

I'd bring an extra banana or something and give it to her saying you assumed she's hungry since she's obsessed with your food.

bigtissue · 14/12/2017 09:05

I’d ask if she has an eating disorder as she seems quite preoccupied with food.

^^ This

RedForFilth · 14/12/2017 09:06

Cross post with FrankensteinsSister

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juddyrockingcloggs · 14/12/2017 09:07

Tell her you'll eat her if she doesn't STFU.

ShirleyPhallus · 14/12/2017 09:07

You may be a very noisy, chompy chewer. I sit near a woman at work who eats bananas in the most disgusting open mouthed, slurpy way and I have to leave my desk when I see the banana come out.... 😷

Frederickvonhefferneffer · 14/12/2017 09:11

Lol juddyrockin!

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