Hey all, am looking for advice. Our elderly (about 90) neighbour clearly has dementia. He wanders the streets aimlessly, mumbles to himself, makes no sense, is in his own world, rarely changes his clothes. He appears to live with his son who potentially abuses him in some way - lots of shouting, banging etc. The son is unfriendly and unapproachable despite me and DP being cheery say-hello-to-the-neighbours sorts. Anyway, so I have just seen the old guy walk out the front door of the block, unzip his flies and walk off down the street with his penis hanging out. What should I do? Police? Mental health services (I am a pom in Oz so I have no idea of MH provision here)? Leave a note for Mr Unapproachable?
Thanks for the advice. There is a police station down the road, I will pop down there. DP reckons we should tell the son - I don't fancy it but will encourage him to do it. There's also a school first in our road and it's not a nice thing for kids to see. Re. The abuse. It's tricky. We haven't seen abuse but just hear a lot of shouting/banging about. It never lasts long enough to consider calling the police.
I am also in Australia and I volunteer with a family violence service which includes elder abuse. Go have a chat to police at your local station, tell them what you have heard. There are police who are trained in elder abuse and it should be referred to them, you can also call 1800respect and talk to them about what you can do.
In Australia, there is a service called ACAT (Aged Care Assessment Team). Generally, once a person is identified with dementia, or they reach a certain age, or have hospital admissions that could then reduce their ability to care for themselves at home, ACAT review the situation (including caters). They will sometimes recommend placement in a nursing home, or simply modifications to the existing home. They conduct the review again at regular intervals.
I’d say that ACAT are aware of this gentleman, but I would he shouldn’t be wandering - he needs review and his carer is possibly struggling. I think the best course of action would be to talk to the police.
Sounds like frontal lobe dementia which makes the sufferer lose their inhibitions. My friend's FIL had this and was sectioned because his behaviour in public was a little too uninhibited. As the police had become involved he received an instant referral to social services.