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AIBU?

To leave DS to cry

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tinypop4 · 10/12/2017 22:58

He is 2.5. He woke up moaning about an hour ago. I checked temp which was ok. I offered cuddle he said no, wouldn't resettle. Went back and gave calpol in case of tummy ache. Gave cuddle. He didn't settle with me in the room or out the room. He doesn't seem to know what he wants but he's awake now and shouting a lot. If I go in he shouts. If I leave them room he shouts. He's not coming out of his room.
He normally sleeps fine. I feel bad leaving him but he isn't much happier if I'm in the room and he certainly isn't sleeping if I Am. I have been in loads of times he hasn't been crying alone for an hour. Should I just leave him now ?

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Butterymuffin · 10/12/2017 23:01

If he normally sleeps well then I would keep going in at intervals to check he's ok until he goes back to sleep.

gamerchick · 10/12/2017 23:01

Is he warm enough? I co slept at that age and man he just needed a body to snuggle up to in winter wasn’t allowed to speak to him though.

cakeymccakington · 10/12/2017 23:02

I wouldn't leave him crying. I'd assume something was wrong. I think it's better to be with an upset child than to leave them by themself

tinypop4 · 10/12/2017 23:02

We've never co slept but I could gigs him another blanket- I'll try. I don't think me trying to sleep with him would work as we've never done it.

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tinypop4 · 10/12/2017 23:03

Cake it goes against my instincts too. Just my presence doesn't seem to be having a calming effect!

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cakeymccakington · 10/12/2017 23:05

Ikwym but I'd still rather be with him, even if it's not visibly helping.

Migraleve · 10/12/2017 23:07

I wouldn't leave him. You must think he is unwell enough to medicate so I think it's fair to say he needs his mum!

BlackeyedSusan · 10/12/2017 23:07

I would be worried he was in pain, especially if it is not normal behaviour. however, you know his cries best so maybe not.

tinypop4 · 10/12/2017 23:09

I don't know if he's ill migrilieve i was just trying it incase he has an ache. It hasn't calmed him down so it's probably not that!
I think he's just awake and cross now as he can't get back to sleep, but we are not in the habit of 'getting' him to sleep so my attempts aren't working! I'm just grabbing a drink before I start trying again!!

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lollipop7 · 10/12/2017 23:10

I’ve never co lost with my two eldest or my third (Very new baby) but with either of the older ones if they were distressed, off colour and. To settling like this I’d bring them in with me. It normally does the trick. They’re only 22 months and 3 1/2 so very little still.

Hope he settles and you both get some sleep!

GreyMorning · 10/12/2017 23:11

I had this a few weeks ago, emotional 3 year old who'd had a big event at home (new sibling) nothing would settle him, he wasn't really awake but wasn't asleep either, he was just upset and emotional and didn't know what he wanted. So I held him for a bit, then turned the light on which seemed to help snap him out of it and then we cuddled up and read a few stories then he led down and went back to sleep. He just needed reassurance at a confusing time.

gamerchick · 10/12/2017 23:12

I’d try another blanket then. Something a bit heavier on the body. He’s old enough to discard it if he gets too hot.

Coastalcommand · 11/12/2017 00:04

A big cuddle maybe?

tinypop4 · 11/12/2017 00:51

We had another cuddle then he went back to sleep. Just over an hour later and he's awake again so I guess something's up but I cannot work out what. Got a family funeral tomorrow too. Parenting hurts sometimes!

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DoJo · 11/12/2017 01:00

Has he done a poo today? That's always my go-to suggestion when mine are out of sorts as sometimes it's not a pain or a sensation of needing to go, but yet they can't settle.

DoJo · 11/12/2017 01:00

Has he done a poo today? That's always my go-to suggestion when mine are out of sorts as sometimes it's not a pain or a sensation of needing to go, but yet they can't settle.

justilou1 · 11/12/2017 06:02

Does he go to daycare? They get restless like this when they have worms. Sorry, but I'd be worming him and the rest of the family, then washing the hell out of everything.

tinypop4 · 11/12/2017 10:59

Just yes he does go to nursery- what are the symptoms of worms? Sounds awful.
Last night was awful he woke every 45 mins, didn't want me to cuddle him really but also didn't want me to leave. Quite perky this morning though, all very odd.

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gamerchick · 11/12/2017 12:03

Yeah I would probably just worm anyway. Although people on here like to fuck about with torches and shit to make sure first.

Itchy bum, disturbed nights because they come out to lay eggs around the anus. The glue they use causes the itching. As common as head lice.

justilou1 · 14/12/2017 03:40

What @gamerchick said. Worms wake them up because they have an itchy butthole. It gives them bad dreams and makes them (and their mothers) feral. Definitely take him to the chemist and get some worming treatment.

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