To pull out because of programme at Christmas concert

[Whyamistillawake]

I've been going to a choir since September, most of which has been practising for the Christmas concert this week.

We've just had the final rehearsal in which they've introduced a duet which us two people (not including me) singing 'Baby it's cold outside'.

Am I overreacting to pull out? At the moment I don't see how I can sit there through it.

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

What's the issue?

[AmysTiara]

I don't understand. Do you hate the song? Or do you wish you were singing in the duet?

[Thurlow]

Is there something wrong with that song?

[flowery]

Whether you are overreacting depends on the reason you would be pulling out?

[IvorBiggun]

Do they sing very badly?

[strawberrypenguin]

Umm unless you have a trauma we don’t know about that you associate with it yes YWBU

[ChristianGreysAnatomy]

It's rapey. Take a look at the lyrics.

[newtlover]

YANBU, but it will be difficult and people will call you humourless
(see also: Brown Sugar, unaccountably popular at women's discos in my youth)

[SunnyCoco]

I think it’s because it’s a bit of a rapey song?

[Buttgandy]

In case anyone needs a reminder

[user1471517900]

Its not rapey at all.

[IvorBiggun]

Rapey?

I’ve just looked at the lyrics and it’s hardly Blurred Lines.

[EdithFinch]

I am confused... why do you hate that song so much?

[Whyamistillawake]

Sorry yes because of the lyrics. I don't want to be singing the duet!

[ItsAllGoingToBeFine]

Apparently it can also be seen as a feminist anthem (really!)

www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/item/9cb7d428-5d0e-4c70-8809-e4d07d9762eb

[Paperchains1986]

I've never considered it 'rapey' and this article explains better than me why

www.bustle.com/p/a-tumblr-post-about-baby-its-cold-outside-historical-context-explains-that-the-song-may-have-entirely-different-meaning-6617625

[user1471517900]

Woman wants to stay but is worried about what other people will say if she does. Man tries to persuade her to stay without force.

This is not rapey.

[Pickleypickles]

I just read the lyrics its not very rapey? Its basically just an argument about staying with a guy and the woman holds her ground and says no??

[Butterymuffin]

There was a thread recently about this and how it's been misunderstood as about rape when it's actually jokey, it's in the context of a relationship and the woman wanting to stay over but that (woman's desire) not being socially acceptable. I'll try and find it.

[CuriousaboutSamphire]

I've got to go - repeat with variations

Ah but I'd like to shag you - repeat with variations

Ah bugger it, I'll stay....


I'm 99.9% certain I first slept with now DH after a similar conversation, and he was the one thinking he should leave!

[user1499786242]

Ffs

[PinkHeart5914]

Meh don’t do it then!

Don’t really see the issue with that song myself

[NotAgainYoda]

I hadn't thought about this before. But it's awful.

[WillowWept]

Not my favourite song and the line

Say what's in this drink? makes me wince a little these days.

Could you just suggest something a little more “relevant”