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To pull out because of programme at Christmas concert

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Whyamistillawake Sun 10-Dec-17 17:28:35

I've been going to a choir since September, most of which has been practising for the Christmas concert this week.

We've just had the final rehearsal in which they've introduced a duet which us two people (not including me) singing 'Baby it's cold outside'.

Am I overreacting to pull out? At the moment I don't see how I can sit there through it.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sun 10-Dec-17 17:29:50

What's the issue?

AmysTiara Sun 10-Dec-17 17:30:42

I don't understand. Do you hate the song? Or do you wish you were singing in the duet? confused

Thurlow Sun 10-Dec-17 17:30:46

Is there something wrong with that song?

flowery Sun 10-Dec-17 17:30:50

Whether you are overreacting depends on the reason you would be pulling out?

IvorBiggun Sun 10-Dec-17 17:31:04

Do they sing very badly?

strawberrypenguin Sun 10-Dec-17 17:31:37

Umm unless you have a trauma we don’t know about that you associate with it yes YWBU

ChristianGreysAnatomy Sun 10-Dec-17 17:32:25

It's rapey. Take a look at the lyrics.

newtlover Sun 10-Dec-17 17:32:47

YANBU, but it will be difficult and people will call you humourless
(see also: Brown Sugar, unaccountably popular at women's discos in my youth)

SunnyCoco Sun 10-Dec-17 17:32:49

I think it’s because it’s a bit of a rapey song?

Buttgandy Sun 10-Dec-17 17:33:48

In case anyone needs a reminder

user1471517900 Sun 10-Dec-17 17:33:51

Its not rapey at all.

Sarahjconnor Sun 10-Dec-17 17:34:13

I was singing along to that a few years ago and realised the lyrics are grim. If I hear it now I can't help imagining bill Cosby singing it in a massive xmas jumper sad

IvorBiggun Sun 10-Dec-17 17:34:47


I’ve just looked at the lyrics and it’s hardly Blurred Lines.

EdithFinch Sun 10-Dec-17 17:34:58

I am confused... why do you hate that song so much?

Whyamistillawake Sun 10-Dec-17 17:35:32

Sorry yes because of the lyrics. I don't want to be singing the duet!

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Sun 10-Dec-17 17:36:03

Apparently it can also be seen as a feminist anthem (really!)

Paperchains1986 Sun 10-Dec-17 17:36:28

I've never considered it 'rapey' and this article explains better than me why

user1471517900 Sun 10-Dec-17 17:36:29

Woman wants to stay but is worried about what other people will say if she does. Man tries to persuade her to stay without force.

This is not rapey.

Pickleypickles Sun 10-Dec-17 17:36:39

I just read the lyrics confused its not very rapey? Its basically just an argument about staying with a guy and the woman holds her ground and says no??

Butterymuffin Sun 10-Dec-17 17:36:53

There was a thread recently about this and how it's been misunderstood as about rape when it's actually jokey, it's in the context of a relationship and the woman wanting to stay over but that (woman's desire) not being socially acceptable. I'll try and find it.

CuriousaboutSamphire Sun 10-Dec-17 17:38:01

I've got to go - repeat with variations

Ah but I'd like to shag you - repeat with variations

Ah bugger it, I'll stay....

I'm 99.9% certain I first slept with now DH after a similar conversation, and he was the one thinking he should leave!

user1499786242 Sun 10-Dec-17 17:38:13


PinkHeart5914 Sun 10-Dec-17 17:38:19

Meh don’t do it then!

Don’t really see the issue with that song myself

NotAgainYoda Sun 10-Dec-17 17:38:55

I hadn't thought about this before. But it's awful.

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