My son is 22 and is on the Autistic spectrum (Aspergers).
He has become unbearable during the last six months. The things he has done to me and my house are too many to mention. The police have been involved on some occasions.
I've been trying to get him help but he refuses to engage with anyone and now that includes me.
His room is literally now a landfill site and he refuses to clean it up either by himself or with help from me.
I have given him a written list of the conditions he has to abide by in order to remain in the house, but he ignores them.
I can't take it anymore and have told him he needs to leave. My sister will let him stay on her sofa or he can take a train to his dad. He's on the council housing list with priority status so if I throw him out he'll be put up in a night hostel. However, he's fixated on finding private accommodation which he won't be able to afford or maintain.
I am at the end of my tether with him and now I've just walked past his bedroom and there are now small flies coming from his room which I think are fruit flies breeding in the spilt and trodden in food and drink. And to think that I spent good money decorating and carpeting his room just a few months ago when he was at his dad's.
I love my son, and want to help him but I can't help someone who won't accept help. I have contacted Adult Social Care, his doctor, Mental Heath Services, carers services and many, many other organisations over the months. But if he refuses to engage with them what can I do?
I think now that he has to leave for the sake off my sanity and health as well as his. I'm hoping that if he is thrown out that it will be a wake up call to him that he has to accept help, if not from me then from others. He won't go willingly so I will have to lock him out. I don't want to have to call the police to remove him.
I've been told that I would be doing the right thing for him and me, but the guilt is so huge. Please tell me you agree with them.
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I have to throw my son out
GuiltyandHeartbrokenmum · 09/12/2017 23:12
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