She's 23 and I'm 13 years older than her. She's treated like a small child by my mum and her father (not my dad) and has basically been spoilt rotten since the day she was born. She moved out of their place last year into a small flat but doesn't work. She's been trying to find work for a whole year but has walked out of one job, been finished by another job (for crying constantly) and been "let go" by 2 other jobs. She will not listen to advice and my mum is OBSESSED with her to the point that she is all she talks about.
Up until recently I have bought her presents for birthdays and Christmas but have never even received a card off her - my mum still adds her name to the bottom of her cards 🤔
Anyway I mentioned after last Christmas that I am no longer buying for adults. My mum agreed but evidently didn't realise that this also meant my sister. So when it came to her birthday I sent a card (as we do for DHs sister). Next minute my mum is fuming with me for not buying her a present or giving her any money!! It was my birthday the week before and I didn't even get a card off her!!! Another family member pointed this out to my mum who said "but she's her sister!!!". Family member said "yes but it works both ways! Sanshin is HER sister!" And my mum just wasn't having any of it. She didn't approach me directly but slagged me off to anyone that would listen at the time.
So for Christmas, I'm sending a card and no more. This will go down like a lead balloon and will probably cause a row but AIBU??? I've already said I'm not buying for adults now (other than parents) and sister IS an adult, whether my mum can grasp that fact or not surely?
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To not buy my sister a Christmas present?
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Sanshin · 09/12/2017 15:51
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