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AIBU?

What can I tell this knob?

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mnpeasantry · 08/12/2017 00:14

So on a late night crowded train full of drinks from xmas parties. Fair enough.

So some guy comes and sits next to me and looks at me intently and says 'thank you'. I say 'I haven't done anything'. He gives me the most ridiculous look and raises his eyebrows and says ' not yet'. I say loudly'that's weird and not appreciated'

He ignores me then tries to squash me. What can I say to him?

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WorraLiberty · 08/12/2017 00:17

Are you asking if you should start an argument with a drunk on a train?

If he's squashing you, move seats.

mnpeasantry · 08/12/2017 00:18

There are zero extra seats. In fact I have vacated mine for a pregnant lady. Why is it ok to squash someone for rebuffing you?

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LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 08/12/2017 00:19

Just get up? Why the fuck wouldvyou talk to him.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 08/12/2017 00:19

Squash him back then.

ShakeShakeTheMuffin · 08/12/2017 00:21

Be thankful there are plenty of other people around. He sounds really creepy. I would try to ignore him I think. He obviously thinks he's being funny.

mnpeasantry · 08/12/2017 00:21

Because I don't believe in staying silent when being harassed

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WorraLiberty · 08/12/2017 00:22

No-one's saying it's ok?

He's drunk, he's an idiot, you've told him his comment was weird and not appreciated.

Unless you're intent of starting a row, just leave it at that.

MakeMisogynyAHateCrime · 08/12/2017 00:22

Don’t talk to him. Nothing will sound clever to him. It will either excite or irritate him.

How long is the remainder of your journey?

mnpeasantry · 08/12/2017 00:25

Not being squashed now as I have given up my seat. But pleasantly surprised to have a comment finally from worraliberty.

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crazycatgal · 08/12/2017 00:25

Sit with your elbows stuck out.

ReanimatedSGB · 08/12/2017 00:27

Yawn loudly and roll your eyes, then look at your phone or read your paper. Yes, he's a knob, yes, he's sexist, but arguing with a drunk sexist knob on a train is really not going to achieve anything.

WorraLiberty · 08/12/2017 00:27

Huh?

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 08/12/2017 00:29

Ignore him. Anything else is just because you fancy a bit of drama.

mnpeasantry · 08/12/2017 00:32

Admittedly I'm not squashed now so not bothering me but if I were I think I would be justified in saying something. Are you saying complaining about being aggressively squashed is dramatic?

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Abouttoblow · 08/12/2017 00:33

Absolutely start a row and tell him he's a complete knob

Domani · 08/12/2017 00:36

FGS! Is that the best chat up line he can come up with? I would just ignore him, don't want to scare you but some people can get nasty when drunk. Pretend to talk on your phone or something?

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 08/12/2017 00:37

Are you saying complaining about being aggressively squashed is dramatic?

In the circumstances you describe? A drunk man who has already invaded your physical space? It’s looking for drama when it can easily be avoided by moving and ignoring him. What is to be gained from challenging a drunk in a confined space?

abbey44 · 08/12/2017 00:39

Don't engage with him. Sometimes the best course of action is to take no action at all.

mnpeasantry · 08/12/2017 00:42

Your responses concern me. Not for me. I'm not scared of this shit bag. He's told me I'm rude, I've told him he squashed people.

But there are people far more timid than me that if they sought your advice would be told 'keep quiet', just move away'. Why the fuck should they?! Minding your own business and someone invades your space. Advice - keep the peace at all costs. Ffs.

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DJBaggySmalls · 08/12/2017 00:46

Its not about being timid. There's a video going viral of a woman who challenged a man over his behaviour and he punched her in the face.

Weebo · 08/12/2017 00:46

It would be really unwise for anyone posting here to egg you on about getting into it with a random drunk on a train.

Can't you see why?

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 08/12/2017 00:48

Why the fuck should they?!

As someone’s who has been assaulted by drunks whilst minding my own business I say move away, ignore, avoid any confrontation because head injuries fucking hurt. Because explaining strangulation marks to your children isn’t fun, especially when you don’t actually know why a person who doesn’t know you would hurt you for doing nothing.

But hey, go to town on them if that’s what floats your boat.

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WaverleyOwl · 08/12/2017 00:48

Jeez, I totally agree mnpeasantry. I would hate what you describe and struggle to move or stand up for myself. Guess people like me just need to suck it up.

HemanOrSheRa · 08/12/2017 00:50

From the situation you describe I agree with everyone else that sometimes it is not worth it. He is clearly looking for a rise out of you. Don't do it.

Or you could ignore us all and head butt him.

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 08/12/2017 00:51

Drunk people are not rational. They don’t give shiny shite about your personal space or your right to feel safe on the train. Nothing you say will have the impact you want it to have. This isn’t a sober person you are dealing with.

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