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To think you see the bad in people when you lose weight?

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BornInSydneyy Thu 07-Dec-17 18:27:11

Colleague at work constantly judges my lunch.

She made a big deal about me not wanting to drink too much at the work Christmas party.

Never once congratulated me on my weight loss. Said I should have a massive binge day because that would help with weight loss hmm

GertrudeCB Thu 07-Dec-17 18:31:26

She sounds like a twat. I used to share an office with the food police. Fucking miserable having every morsel I ate scrutinized. Thank god I'm out of there now.

MissionItsPossible Thu 07-Dec-17 18:37:15

Tell her to piss off and mind her own business. Or go down the passive aggressive route and do the same to her. "That was a rather large bite of that sandwich. Are you particularly hungry today? Are you really craving cheese, is that why there's cheese on it? Ooh, another bite! Someone's very hungry today, aren't they?" Etc etc. I'd just go with the piss off and mind your own business route though.

tendergreenbean Thu 07-Dec-17 23:20:08

Yeah I think there's a correlation.
A big part of losing weight is learning to respect your body and care about your health and wellbeing.
Increased self respect and self esteem means you start to notice more when people don't respect you.
At least that was the case for me.

Elusiveone Thu 07-Dec-17 23:54:51

On losing 8 stone myself i would never judge what anyone else eats as thats up to them. I only judge to myself what i eat. On losing this weight ive become a better person with more confidence but im still me just not so fat anymore

WorraLiberty Fri 08-Dec-17 00:00:47

Tell her it's none of her business and change the subject.

Equally, try not to make it her business by (if indeed you ever have) bringing your diet/weightloss up in conversation.

WRT congratulating someone on losing weight, I'd personally find that a bit awkward and weird, as their weight is none of my business. Unless of course they pointedly chose to say, "Worra, I've lost X amount of weight". Then of course I'd say "well done".

HuskyMcClusky Fri 08-Dec-17 00:05:09

I wish people would just shut up about what other people put in their mouths.

Had some friends bang on and on about how I ‘hardly eat anything’ whenever I have drinks with them. It’s such bollocks, I eat plenty, I just can’t smash half a cheese platter by myself. But I felt like an orthorexic tit who was somehow letting the side down. hmm

Domani Fri 08-Dec-17 00:28:47

I noticed something very annoying when I lost weight. I used to be very much overweight and lost 7 stone through diet and exercise (took 2 years). What was annoying was the extra attention that men gave me (including men that I worked with who hardly acknowledged me previously). Annoying and quite pathetic! Well done OP, just try to ignore her if you can.

Loveache Fri 08-Dec-17 00:40:37

I was underweight for a while owing to a stress and illness combo. But I did not look bad at all. The stares of loathing and bitchy comments, some from strangers and some from my own 'friends' were hard to take.
But- my very old landlady at the time told me I looked like a model, my bestie gave me compliments and support and I liked my own body.
So will your real friends, everyone who has something passive aggressive to say about your body, whatever it looks like, can fuck right off imo.

Italiangreyhound Fri 08-Dec-17 00:42:01

BornInSydneyy I honestly think some people feel 'threatened' when others are successful at kicking bad habits. Offering cigarettes to people who were trying to quite seemed to be quite common when I was younger (and a smoker).

"Go on, one won't hurt you." Is designed to make people who have made a resolve not to do something, do what the speaker wants - not what they themselves want.

Elusiveone can you share some of the secrets of your success, please?

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