not being asked about nativity costume

[jemima39]

I've just been to my three olds nativity play, I asked more than once in the past week if they needed me to provide anything, they said no they were providing costumes. As I'm queuing to get in I realise I'm by her little drawer that they put her paintings and drawings in, thought I'd take whatever was in there home with me now rather than Friday, thats when I find a letter saying I was supposed to provide her with a reindeer costume! So she was the only child in the whole nativity just wearing her clothes, she had reindeer antlers on but the others had the whole outfit, even my daughter has been talking about wearing her 'reindeer costume' for two weeks so I really did assume they were providing it? Most of the other kids costumes appear to have been from the nursery not from the parents. It was a lovely performance and my daughter was great but I got to my mums to pick up my son and just burst into tears, feel a bit cheated, I know there are far worse things to be upset about and I dont think my daughter realises whats happened but I'm so tearful about it!

[JoJoSM2]

She must have stuck out like s sore thumb. That’s poor. I’d complain.

[Ameliablue]

Do they normally put letters in the tray?

[ShowMePotatoSalad]

It just sounds like miscommunication. Maybe the person you asked didn't know you had to bring anything in. They should have handed the letter to you or told you verbally but like you say there are far worse things to be upset about.

And no she wouldn't have stuck out like a sore thumb JoJo. I doubt anyone else particularly noticed it. They are 3 - it's not an RSC production of Hamlet is it?

[Sammysquiz]

If your daughter didn’t realise and isn’t upset, then why are you?

[jemima39]

they dont normally put letters in the tray, they hand them out as they call each child through as their parents come in, I have no idea how long the note has been there, I've had plenty of other bits of communication, party food letters, nursery photos proofs etc, all handed to me as I've picked up, its a standing joke that I'm always asking them if theres anything I need to know as I have three kids at different schools so keep track of their activities at christmas is a full time job, I would have loved to get her a little costume from the supermarket, I even make a point of donating the costumes to the nursery for the next years performance!

[jemima39]

Sammysquiz - because its her first and last nursery nativity show, I have photos of my other three kids in their perfomances and just feel she missed out somehow

[MissionItsPossible]

I won't say you are being unreasonable because you seem upset by it so I'll just say it is unfortunate but you will have loads of opportunities to take loads of nice lovely photos so don't let it bother you too much

[GreatDuckCookery6211]

Aw what a shame. I wonder why they said what they did? Are you going to speak to someone?

[jemima39]

I've sent them an email, its not a complaint, just an explanation that I felt upset and concerned that my daughter might have felt excluded being the only one not dressed up, have suggested they might look at how they communicate with the parents so that important info isnt missed, I dont want to fall out with them, its a lovely nursery with an outstanding ofsted report and my daughter loves it there, its just really broken my heart tonight, I was so excited to see her in a little reindeer outfit, I think she thought she was getting one somehow but isnt old enough to ask where it was coming from, she goes everyday, why didnt they say at any point "have you got her costume yet?" they have had rehearsals every day?

[GreatDuckCookery6211]

Good idea to email in. Maybe you could buy her a reindeer outfit anyway?

[stella23]

Was she sick at all? Maybe the
Lettter got put in the draw if she was off

[NeverTwerkNaked]

Can’t they email info out. Our nursery email any info like this

[Alpacaandgo]

That's really crap, bless her. I would have been upset too if my lo was the only one not in costume as they are bound to be upset not having a costume.
At 3, no letters should be put in drawers, they should be given to parents. I can't believe they overlooked this and didn't chase you up for a costume.