I have a friend who doesn't live close by and we don't see much of each other (special occasions) but we see to have gotten into the habit of buying our kids Christmas presents. Not sure when I'll next see her but AIBU to suggest we stop? What should I say?
Text or message: "Hey, looking forward to seeing you soon! Just wanted to check if it was ok if we stop exchanging gifts for the dc's. They've lived your gifts so far but we're trying to cut back, both on spending and stuff. Thanks for understanding."
Its always tricky, but maybe just come out with it? just explain your reasons that you don't want to exchange pressies this year and that its nothing personal. If she takes offence then there isnt much you can do really.
We have a couple of friends who we meet only a few times a year. We don't send or receive presents at Christmas or birthdays anymore but we do exchange small gifts when we do manage to meet up. Would that be an option as it lightens the load at Christmas?