My DS who's 25 sent me a message last night saying he wants to split with his GF & can he stay at ours a few nights. We have a spare room. my DP (Not DS's father) went on a massive rant about how my DS is an adult and should act like one not run to Mum.
I know my DP doesn't feel comfortable with others in the house and in particular my DS. Now I didn't ask if he could come and stay I just told my DP about the message, I then was unable to hardly say a word and when i managed to he wasn't listening and jumped in straight away.
In the end I was really upset, he stayed downstairs till late and I went to bed.
My DS won't stay longer than a few days as GF is leaving next week for xmas and he is going away soon too, but I do understand where my DP is coming from, he even struggled with his own sister staying with before we even lived together.
my family comes from an everyone is welcome background, he hardly ever had people at his home.
Now WWYD?
I have 2 issues here,
- balancing the welcome or not of my DS to my home.
- DP who when he's on a rant listens to no-one which leaves me angry and frustrated.
sorry if its long.