This is not a new problem, this will be the 5th Christmas we've had in this house. DH's friend (F 1) lives a 4 hour drive away, when we bought a bigger house 4 years ago we invited him for Christmas and it seems to have become a tradition.
He arrives in our village on the 22nd or 23rd of December but stays with other friend (F2) (who is single with a 2 bed flat). They are both invited here for Christmas Day, F2 goes home when the day is over but F1 stays over. He then doesn't leave until the 3rd or 4th of January!
Every year it does my head in! Why would he want to stay with a family when he can stay with a similar aged single man?
My DH isn't one for sitting on his arse all day, he doesn't get a lot of holidays a year so when he's off he does a lot of odd jobs around the house. Our house is a bit of a project so there's always something to do. His mate just sits around, rolling fags (a bug bear of mine as I've to hoover up the tobacco all the time!) and watching telly. He swears a lot and we have a 5 year old so I'm so conscious of it.
When I get up in the morning I feel I can't wear my pjs so have to have a shower and get dressed. My ensuite shower has been knackered for the last year so have been using the ensuite shower in the room F1 sleeps in, I can't do this when he's here. Thankfully my shower is now fixed but it's not a good shower so I don't normally use it.
I told DH 3 weeks ago that it wasn't happening this year and I was putting my foot down. He got grumpy with me and said he'd tell him not to come at all. Result! However, F1 has been messaging me to say he can't wait until Christmas so he's obviously not been told 😡
This year F2 is going to his family 2 hours away but hopefully F1 can still stay in his flat for the 3 days he's away or we'll have F1 there on Christmas morning too 😫
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To not want DH's friend to stay with us throughout Christmas!
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TeeniefaeTroon · 07/12/2017 00:16
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