To think £60 is a lot of money?

[Brandbrandbrandy]

I joined a Pilates class on recommendation from a friend. When I registered, I had to fill in a form and one of the questions was how I heard of the place, ie. Internet, local advertisment etc.

When I handed the form in, the receptionist said “oh, don’t forget to ask your friend about the vouchers”.

Apparently if you join through an existing member, you get the equivalent of £120 discount between you in vouchers but they are redeemed by the existing member, if that makes sense. I guess to ensure that you do actually know each other and it’s not a scam on your part to get £60 off by randomly giving someone’s name.

Anyway, weeks went by and my friend didn’t mention anything about the vouchers. Eventually I brought it up. My exact words were: “Oh, by the way, apparently you get £120 worth of vouchers because I signed up through you. Did you get them yet?”

So she answered: “yes, I got them”.

That’s all.

Anyway, I pressed a bit about the blurb being something like: “bring a friend and if they join, you can share £120 in vouchers redeemable against classes and other purchases” or something like that.

She looked at me like and said “chill out Brandy, it’s only £60”.

AIBU to think she’s being mean not to share? Or was I being grabby?

[illuminousopptomist]

Nice friend! YADNU. Demand your share and/or tell the instructor.

[MoralBeryl]

YANBU. They were clearly intended for both of you.

[Simmy10]

If it's 'only £60' then why is she not sharing?! You are in the right OP.

[isawahatonce]

£60 is a lot of money to me. If the official line is that you get £120 of vouchers to share, she should share them with you.

[Dozer]

YANBU. Nice “friend”.

Ask for info from the company on the terms and conditions of the offer and, if your friend has broken them, report this to them.

[Allthewaves]

Depends I suppose. Some classes here are £20/25 a session so might just be a weeks worth of classes to her

[Brandbrandbrandy]

Thanks all. I guess the grey area is that it doesn’t actually say you have to share, just suggests it implicitly.

So I think she thinks they are hers.

But when I asked the receptionist (I was quite cross) she said that whilst most people do share, it’s up to the existing member.

[Nocabbageinmyeye]

"oh good if it's only £60 you won't mind handing it over so" sneaky bitch

[Santasbigredbobblehat]

Well I would want to share with my friend. I guess she just isn’t very nice.

[Brandbrandbrandy]

Well, that’s the thing Santa. I used to think she was lovely. And in many ways she is. She’s good company, and we have a laugh.

But I’m noticing more and more little things that make me question who she is. For example, she can be a bit of a bully. And when we go out to eat for say, a curry, she’ll take all the best bits of meat leaving mainly sauce and small grisly bits for everyone else.

[Yogagirl123]

A lot of money to me too, greedy moo very selfish not to share with you OP.

[IHaveBrilloHair]

She's not you're friend, she's a grabby cheeky fucker.

[Santasbigredbobblehat]

I can’t imagine doing this to someone or them to me. These are her true colours.

[Silverthorn]

I would back out of this 'friendship'. Greedy cow.

[Dozer]

So the actual offer is entirely for the existing member? That’s poor management by the company.

[WineAndTiramisu]

I'd keep my distance from her, especially as this isn't the only thing she's selfish about...

[Brandbrandbrandy]

I guess it’s using friendships to entice new members @Dozer. They’re expecting there to be trust and generosity between friends. And that warm feeling spreads to the studio. Except in my case where it’s actually caused bad feeling!

[morningconstitutional2017]

As I understand it you were given these vouchers to share - your friend keeping them to herself doesn't come into my definition of sharing. It's rather mean of her to keep them to herself.
And yes, £60 is a quite a lot of money - it would cover slightly more than a weeks worth of groceries for me.

[expatinscotland]

YANBU. She's a CF.

[Viviennemary]

This sounds mean. But I blame the club for encouraging this sort of thing. Well as £60 isn't much to her she can hand over the whole £120 to you. I'd back away from her too. Had to laugh at a 'grabby cheeky fucker'. In a nutshell I'd say.

[CeciliaBartolli]

What a rotter!

[Vernazza]

But I’m noticing more and more little things that make me question who she is. For example, she can be a bit of a bully. And when we go out to eat for say, a curry, she’ll take all the best bits of meat leaving mainly sauce and small grisly bits for everyone else.

Someone that does this is not "lovely" - she's a selfish cow. Ugh. Pretty sure you can find better friends than this.

[LordSugarWillSeeYouNow]

It would be worth suggesting a policy change to the management after this, how embarrassing for your friend to just keep all of the vouchers, especially when she thinks it's "only" £60.

There has to be another way to make the incentive work when faced with such cheeky people like her. If you hadn't joined up then she would have got FA.

I'm not one for confrontation but in this situation I would definitely ask her outright why she thinks it's ok to essentially gain from you joining when presumably everyone else splits it without a second thought.

I would keep my distance if she doesn't split it. Says a hell of a lot about her character

[Rudgie47]

Shes not a friend, distance yourself and ditch her.
Shes tight and miserly.

[FluffyNinja]

I'd happily point out to friend that if you hadn't joined, she would have got zero vouchers so she needs to think about doing the right thing.