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To think £60 is a lot of money?

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Brandbrandbrandy Wed 06-Dec-17 17:04:14

I joined a Pilates class on recommendation from a friend. When I registered, I had to fill in a form and one of the questions was how I heard of the place, ie. Internet, local advertisment etc.

When I handed the form in, the receptionist said “oh, don’t forget to ask your friend about the vouchers”.

Apparently if you join through an existing member, you get the equivalent of £120 discount between you in vouchers but they are redeemed by the existing member, if that makes sense. I guess to ensure that you do actually know each other and it’s not a scam on your part to get £60 off by randomly giving someone’s name.

Anyway, weeks went by and my friend didn’t mention anything about the vouchers. Eventually I brought it up. My exact words were: “Oh, by the way, apparently you get £120 worth of vouchers because I signed up through you. Did you get them yet?”

So she answered: “yes, I got them”.

That’s all.

Anyway, I pressed a bit about the blurb being something like: “bring a friend and if they join, you can share £120 in vouchers redeemable against classes and other purchases” or something like that.

She looked at me like hmm and said “chill out Brandy, it’s only £60”.

AIBU to think she’s being mean not to share? Or was I being grabby?

illuminousopptomist Wed 06-Dec-17 17:06:38

shock Nice friend! YADNU. Demand your share and/or tell the instructor.

MoralBeryl Wed 06-Dec-17 17:07:01

YANBU. They were clearly intended for both of you.

Simmy10 Wed 06-Dec-17 17:07:04

If it's 'only £60' then why is she not sharing?! You are in the right OP.

isawahatonce Wed 06-Dec-17 17:07:18

£60 is a lot of money to me. If the official line is that you get £120 of vouchers to share, she should share them with you.

Dozer Wed 06-Dec-17 17:08:31

YANBU. Nice “friend”.

Ask for info from the company on the terms and conditions of the offer and, if your friend has broken them, report this to them.

Allthewaves Wed 06-Dec-17 17:09:03

Depends I suppose. Some classes here are £20/25 a session so might just be a weeks worth of classes to her

Brandbrandbrandy Wed 06-Dec-17 17:09:44

Thanks all. I guess the grey area is that it doesn’t actually say you have to share, just suggests it implicitly.

So I think she thinks they are hers.

But when I asked the receptionist (I was quite cross) she said that whilst most people do share, it’s up to the existing member.

Nocabbageinmyeye Wed 06-Dec-17 17:10:25

"oh good if it's only £60 you won't mind handing it over so" sneaky bitch

Santasbigredbobblehat Wed 06-Dec-17 17:11:21

Well I would want to share with my friend. I guess she just isn’t very nice.

Brandbrandbrandy Wed 06-Dec-17 17:15:49

Well, that’s the thing Santa. I used to think she was lovely. And in many ways she is. She’s good company, and we have a laugh.

But I’m noticing more and more little things that make me question who she is. For example, she can be a bit of a bully. And when we go out to eat for say, a curry, she’ll take all the best bits of meat leaving mainly sauce and small grisly bits for everyone else.

Yogagirl123 Wed 06-Dec-17 17:16:19

A lot of money to me too, greedy moo very selfish not to share with you OP.

IHaveBrilloHair Wed 06-Dec-17 17:17:51

She's not you're friend, she's a grabby cheeky fucker.

Santasbigredbobblehat Wed 06-Dec-17 17:19:49

I can’t imagine doing this to someone or them to me. These are her true colours.

Silverthorn Wed 06-Dec-17 17:20:03

I would back out of this 'friendship'. Greedy cow.

Dozer Wed 06-Dec-17 17:20:46

So the actual offer is entirely for the existing member? That’s poor management by the company.

WineAndTiramisu Wed 06-Dec-17 17:21:47

I'd keep my distance from her, especially as this isn't the only thing she's selfish about...

Brandbrandbrandy Wed 06-Dec-17 17:26:24

I guess it’s using friendships to entice new members @Dozer. They’re expecting there to be trust and generosity between friends. And that warm feeling spreads to the studio. Except in my case where it’s actually caused bad feeling!

morningconstitutional2017 Wed 06-Dec-17 17:27:49

As I understand it you were given these vouchers to share - your friend keeping them to herself doesn't come into my definition of sharing. It's rather mean of her to keep them to herself.
And yes, £60 is a quite a lot of money - it would cover slightly more than a weeks worth of groceries for me.

expatinscotland Wed 06-Dec-17 17:29:42

YANBU. She's a CF.

Viviennemary Wed 06-Dec-17 17:29:59

This sounds mean. But I blame the club for encouraging this sort of thing. Well as £60 isn't much to her she can hand over the whole £120 to you. I'd back away from her too. Had to laugh at a 'grabby cheeky fucker'. In a nutshell I'd say.

CeciliaBartolli Wed 06-Dec-17 17:30:35

What a rotter!

Vernazza Wed 06-Dec-17 17:30:46

But I’m noticing more and more little things that make me question who she is. For example, she can be a bit of a bully. And when we go out to eat for say, a curry, she’ll take all the best bits of meat leaving mainly sauce and small grisly bits for everyone else.

Someone that does this is not "lovely" - she's a selfish cow. Ugh. Pretty sure you can find better friends than this.

LordSugarWillSeeYouNow Wed 06-Dec-17 17:35:16

It would be worth suggesting a policy change to the management after this, how embarrassing for your friend to just keep all of the vouchers, especially when she thinks it's "only" £60.

There has to be another way to make the incentive work when faced with such cheeky people like her. If you hadn't joined up then she would have got FA.

I'm not one for confrontation but in this situation I would definitely ask her outright why she thinks it's ok to essentially gain from you joining when presumably everyone else splits it without a second thought.

I would keep my distance if she doesn't split it. Says a hell of a lot about her character

Rudgie47 Wed 06-Dec-17 17:37:53

Shes not a friend, distance yourself and ditch her.
Shes tight and miserly.

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