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To think DH can just let me be ill for a day or two?

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lookingforthecorkscrew Wed 06-Dec-17 11:25:37

I’m 12 weeks pregnant with DC2 and I’ve caught DS’s foul chest cold. I have had horrid morning sickness this time around, and the coughing is making me gag and retch.

DH is working from home until Jan on various non-pressing creative projects. Things he needs to do but with no particular urgency - he took himself off to a museum the othe day for a nice outing.

DS finishes nursery in ten minutes. DH looks in the fridge and starts freaking out that there’s nothing for lunch. Then suggests I ‘pick something up’ when I go to collect DS, whose nursery is nowhere near any shops. I initially agree but after about three minutes I realise he’s being a rotten shit and say ‘Can YOU go to the shop while I get DS’ - cue hissy fit from DH about having to put his trousers on and go outside (he’s working in his pants today).

My ears are ringing and I just want to hide under a blanket all day. AIBU to send him to the shop? Is HE BU? And how can I call him on it?!

araiwa Wed 06-Dec-17 11:27:01

Send him to pick up kid and go to get food confused

lookingforthecorkscrew Wed 06-Dec-17 11:27:37

God, that’d floor him!

GummyGoddess Wed 06-Dec-17 11:28:16

Take your trousers off and then complain you can't go anywhere either? grin

Seriously I would point out that you're ill and as you're supposed to be a team it's best to divide and conquer, one of you get ds, the other goes to the shops.

Shoxfordian Wed 06-Dec-17 11:28:21

Yeah why isn't he doing both if you're ill?

araiwa Wed 06-Dec-17 11:28:48

Tough shit for him smile

lookingforthecorkscrew Wed 06-Dec-17 11:28:51

DS’s nursery is only five mins away through a park, so I’m happy to drag myself there.

gamerchick Wed 06-Dec-17 11:29:36

I’d send him for the bairn and to the shops personally.

Tell him he’s being a selfish twat.

lookingforthecorkscrew Wed 06-Dec-17 11:29:36

Also there’s a pizza in the fridge. MY pizza. I was going to have it for a filthy ill lunch.

nowt Wed 06-Dec-17 11:29:52

God, that’d floor him!


NSEA Wed 06-Dec-17 11:30:16

At the very least he shouldgo to the shops alone. Really, He needs to go collect your child AND go get him self food. He is being very uncaring.

gamerchick Wed 06-Dec-17 11:30:25

Then I guess your bloke is going to have a hungry lunch time.

streetlife70s Wed 06-Dec-17 11:30:56

HE needs to get collect his child, pick up dinner, cook it, do the housework and put kid to bed.

I cannot understand why he wouldn’t do this? Don’t enable him OP. Tell him you’re too ill and to get on with being a decent husband and parent for Christ’s sake!

romany4 Wed 06-Dec-17 11:31:02

He shouldn't even be asking you to do either. My DH would have done both and told me to go to bed.

TammySwansonTwo Wed 06-Dec-17 11:37:49

He needs to give his head a wobble - how dare he? Stop letting him get away with this!

Anatidae Wed 06-Dec-17 11:39:16

He needs to go and pick up your son, bring him back and make him some tea, then being you a cuppa and put the kid to bed.

Go back to bed.

MinorRSole Wed 06-Dec-17 11:42:56

Last time I was really ill dh took the day off work to look after me blush I do have a chronic health issue anyway so there were other factors but even if I didn't he would still fuss over me. Mostly it pisses me off and he gets frustrated by my independence but when I'm poorly we get on great!

Your dh should do both, what an arse. How hard is it for a fully grown adult male to pick up ds and take him out for lunch and a play so you can rest? Then bring you home chocolates and flowers because that's what nice people do!

ForagingForFaerieGold Wed 06-Dec-17 11:45:00

Oh you Are ALL BU. Don't you know that women don't get as ill as men do? Biological FACT! confused

Seriously though, he needs to get his shit together and go get the kiddie and some shopping. It won't kill him. Why exactly does he expect you to do it? Ill or not actually.

ijustwannadance Wed 06-Dec-17 11:49:28

He's being a dick. HE should be picking up son without needing to ne asked and is big enough to get himself food.

Doesn't want to put trousers on ffs. Fucking baby.

timeisnotaline Wed 06-Dec-17 11:50:53

Mine would get me a cup of tea, pick up ds, go to the shops and cook dinner. Yours sounds spoilt and spectacularly useless.

MoosicalDaisy Wed 06-Dec-17 11:52:48

I wish I got the basic 'How are you feeling?' Minor #jealous

KatharinaRosalie Wed 06-Dec-17 11:54:48

OK where do you live, I'm coming over to give your 'd'H a kick in the backside. He has a pregnant ill wife and he's whining because he needs to put trousers on?
Go back to bed, now! He does it all.

diddl Wed 06-Dec-17 11:55:23

Bloody hell, Op that's awful.

Working in his pants?

Is that a thing?

MinorRSole Wed 06-Dec-17 11:55:41

Don't be jealous @MoosicalDaisy - he has a wealth of flaws, unlike me halo he's a very lucky man grin

Frederickvonhefferneffer Wed 06-Dec-17 11:58:26

Why are you breeding with this man?! That’s so inconsiderate. Lay down the law, tell him you need to go to bed for the afternoon.

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