I have a brother and a half brother (HB) - same dad. They live fairly close to each other, about 150 miles away.
DB will be with us at Christmas. HB will be at home so I won't see him. I had planned to visit next weekend instead. HB has no room to put me and DC up so the plan was to stay with DB (who doesn't have much room) for one night.
When she found out I was going, DM invited herself too. DB doesn't have room to fit us all in without a squeeze and the point of going wasn't to see DB as such but to see HB. I had planned to stay in a hotel but DB said not to.
AIBU to tell DM she can't come as it's a visit to my HB not my DB? It would completely change the whole dynamic and DM will see DB plenty over Christmas.
Ah ok - then sweeten the pill by suggesting another get together for Jan/Feb.
I feel for her a little bit - do you think it would make your hb feel awkward to see her or would she be the one subtly edging him out? Or will you feel tense in case things have the potential to kick off or you feel freer to talk about your dad?
It's a hard one. Sorry mu sugg was far too simplistic.